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Pesach in the 1600s-1700s vs. Pesach Today

31/3/2021

 
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Going through the Me'am Loez always provides inspiration, interest, and knowledge.

For a previous post describing the Me'am Loez, please see:
http://www.myrtlerising.com/blog/exploring-the-ladino-torah-anthology-known-as-the-meam-loez-its-impact-yesterday-its-benefit-today-plus-a-bit-about-ladino-why-well-probably-never-know-the-complete-original-content


For example, the Me'am Loez's Pesach Haggadah originally appeared as part of the book of Shemot/Exodus, published in Constantinople in 1734 by Rav Yaakov Culi.

But when translating the Me'am Loez into English, they decided to publish the Haggadah as its own separate volume—an astute & helpful decision for those of us who wish to use a handier version of the Haggaddah. (The entire book of Shemot of the Me'am Loez is massive.)

Rav Aryeh Kaplan translated the Haggadah directly from the original Ladino, including consultation with Rav Shmuel Yerushalmi's Hebrew translation.

For Ashkenazi readers, Rav Kaplan also included the Ashkenazi customs in parentheses & italics when they differ from the Sephardi customs, making the Haggadah accessible to all.

​Reading centuries-old texts written for both regular people and scholars provides so much insight & mussar, in addition to a better understanding of Judaism & its laws.


The Beauty of Spilled Wine

In the translator's preface, Rav Kaplan notes the wine stains found on the Haggadah pages of the original editions of the Me'am Loez's Sefer Shemot.

​This provides evidence for the active use of the Me'am Loez's Haggadah during the Seder itself. 

But can you imagine how the people 300 years ago perceived such spills?

Printing was much more laborious back then. Only wealthy bibliophiles kept shelves & shelves of books in their homes.

Whenever possible, Ladino-speaking Jews strove to acquire a set of the Me'am Loez. Others needed to settle for a public reading of it.

​Back then, chatanim (grooms) received a set of the Me'am Loez, similar to today's custom of gifting the chatan with a set of Talmud Bavli.

One can imagine the disgruntlement of people who now faced a wine-stain on their not-so-easily replaceable & highly prized volume of Sefer Shemot of the Me'am Loez.

Yet those very stains provide the heart-warming & valuable evidence that, yes, this Haggadah was in active use and not just a bookshelf trophy.

Little did they know back then that Hashem wanted their wine to splash onto the Haggadah pages to provide us with cherished evidence & connection 300 years later.

This knowledge also granted me comfort (and prevented a scowl) when my own small child placed his soupy hand right in the middle of page 108, where Rav Culi explains about the afikomin.

Because the soup contained generous amounts of turmeric & because turmeric acts as a yellow dye, my own Me'am Loez Haggadah also provides evidence of use during the Seder—making us part of this unintentional but long-standing tradition associated with the Me'am Loez Haggadah.

So Rav Kaplan's preface enabled me to feel good about the pattern of yellow finger-stains rather than miffed. (Also, if I really wanted to, I could access a new copy of the Me'am Loez Haggadah with a lot more ease than 300 years ago.)

Everything really does happen for a reason—a good reason!—including Seder stains on a Haggadah.

How to Make a Cup of Water...

Reading the sections on how to get ready for Pesach and how to make perfectly kosher matzahs highlights how complex things were before so much of kashrut and the domestic sphere received a hi-tech upgrade.

In fact, producing kosher matzahs sounds nearly impossible and reading the directions makes me wonder how anyone managed such a feat prior to the modern era—yet they clearly succeeded.

Even routine acts we take for granted today (like drinking a cup of water) involved a whole process.

Water from public wells needed to be boiled to kill germs. It also needed to be strained to remove bugs & worms.

Even water from a relatively clean private well needed to undergo straining to make it bug-free for drinking.

That process occurred all year 'round, not just for Pesach.

The Challenges of Children & Pesach

Making Pesach with small children proved as much as a blessed challenge in the 1700s as today. (Maybe more?)

​As Rav Culi writes (pages 192 & 225):
"One must be particularly scrupulous in a house with small children. They walk around carrying bread and breaking it into small crumbs. Sometimes they throw around more than they eat."

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"Special care must be taken in homes where there are small children, since they like to get into all the food."


Couldn't have described it better.

Clearly, the rav knew exactly how things go in real families.

Rav Culi then recalls a case of which he had personal knowledge, in which a small child threw a piece of bread into a Pesach pot full of fat being rendered for Pesach.

No one realized what had happened until the child himself spoke up. 

Rav Culi ascribes the revelation to the merit of the family, which clearly devoted themselves to the mitzvah of ridding their home of chametz. Such devotion earns "help from on high."

Rav Culi states (page 225):
"God had mercy and the child told his mother, allowing the family to avoid the prohibition of chametz. But certainly, they might have eaten chametz that year."

The practical side of me wonders what they did with the pot, what happened with all that fat, and how they remedied the situation. 

Back then, people used rendered fat in place of oil or butter.

Purchasing oil for Pesach back then was no easy feat either and needed to be planned 6 days in advance. It could mean they were stuck without fat for the duration of Pesach, unless they had oil too. Likely, they bought, borrowed, or received kosher-for-Pesach fat or oil from someone else.

If Rav Culi personally knew about it, maybe he even helped them out himself.

Something's Funny with the 17th-Century Honey

While food purists like to romanticize the quality of food before mass production, mass regulation, and mass kashrut supervision, it wasn't always better.

For example, Rav Chaim Benveniste (1603-1673), the author of Knesset HaGedolah & chief rabbi of Izmir/Smyrna, decided to investigate whether the honey sold in the marketplace was really kosher for Pesach.

After all, it's simple straight-forward honey, right?

Wrong.

Trustworthy people informed him that to remove honey from its comb, merchants sometimes used hot water.

This meant that the honey sold in jars wasn't necessarily pure honey, but a somewhat watered-down version.

This also presented a problem for those who did not want any water with their matzah or matzah flour (AKA gebrochts).

Furthermore, the rav also discovered that many honey merchants mixed their honey with flour or starch to make it thicker. The merchants explained how difficult it was to remove honey from its comb without hot water, which thinned the honey. So they admitted to thickening it back up again with flour or starch.

However, in the market place, the honey looked like regular pure honey and was also sold as such.

Yet it was actual chametz! Who would've guessed?

Based on the above, Rav Benveniste warned against the use of commercial honey on Pesach.

He only permitted honey still in the comb that never underwent any kind of tampering.

We see from this the problem of commercial foods without regulation or supervision.

Also, while I've no idea if people then realized the digestive problems associated with issues like Celiac and the like, but buying honey without realizing it contains flour or starch can cause health issues in some people.

I also wonder about the addition of unsifted flour into the honey; without sifting, flour easily contains worms & bugs.

Furthermore, we also see how the dedication to the laws of kashrut revealed that, even for non-Pesach use, the product sold in bottles as pure honey was actually a concoction of honey, water, and flour or starch.

Though it required more labor, one imagines that people may have ended up purchasing honey comb throughout the rest of the year too in order to get their real money's worth, in addition to accessing the purer, healthier option of flourless/starchless honey.

These are a Few of My Favorite Things...

Many Jews today feel challenged by Torah Laws today, but we see out of His Compassion for our weakened state, Hashem has made things SO MUCH easier for us.

Compared to 17th-Century Constantinople, much of the more demanding aspects of halacha are a skip in the park.

​It's also a big chessed that in most modern homes, we can drink all the water we need without giving a thought to underground bacteria or bugs or filth.

Even if we're concerned about other things in the water, options exist to purify our water even more.

Not to mention the ease & relative safety of purchasing bottled water from a store.

We also tend to rely on labels from reputable companies stating that the honey within is pure honey—and even the source of the honey (wildflowers, avocado flowers, orange blossoms, etc.). 

We rely on the majestic boxes of shemurah matzah and their regal hechshers for our Seder needs.

Kosher-for-Pesach nosh & fresh fruits & vegetables now exist for children up to and including Pesach. 

Hardly anyone renders fat anymore. A variety of oils and sometimes even schmaltz itself stand at attention on the shelves of local supermarkets.

(And sure, a piece of bread tossed into a cooking Pesach pot would still cause a mini-crisis, but one more readily remedied in our times.)

We know that stains of wine or soupy turmeric on our commentary-filled Haggadahs provide cherished evidence of the unbroken chain of meaningful Pesach Seders.

May Hashem please redeem us completely with compassion so that we may experience a genuine era of Geula & joy.

A Journey into Russian-American (with some Chinese & Italian) Jewish Reading via Sofya Sara Esther Tamarkin

29/3/2021

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One of my favorite writers is someone I discovered only around a year ago:
Sofya Sara Esther Tamarkin.

Born in the Soviet Union, Tamarkin immigrated from Saratov with her family in 1989 when she was around age 12.

Her journey to Torah Judaism has been more than a journey of intellect & deeds, but also of heart & soul.

Her English writing is superb and possesses a certain depth & dimension beyond articulation, but definitely experience each time coming across a new article of hers.

Here her articles on chabad.org:
https://www.chabad.org/search/keyword.asp?kid=23400&page=3&jewish=Tamarkin-Sofya-Sara-Esther.htm

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And here are her articles on Aish:
https://www.aish.com/authors/573126641.html
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Growing up in America, I well remember the plight of the Jewish refuseniks & the stories we heard and the letters we wrote them to show the Russian government we cared, hoping it might offer them some kind of protection.

(Mostly, the letters never arrived to the refuseniks, but were returned obviously opened & carelessly glued shut. The letters mainly signaled to the Russian government that someone cared about the family; someone on the outside was aware of their existence. I've no idea how much it worked for the average refusenik—other than Natan Sharansky, for whom it worked well as he received a continuous ocean of mail—but during the age of 11-14, it was all I knew to do & it made me feel I was doing something for them.)

Tamarkin is only a couple of years younger than me, so it means a lot to read about her experiences during a time that made such an emotional impression upon me. Without having known of her specifically, she was one of the people about whom the young me felt so much concern.

Here are some favorite articles by Tamarkin:

https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/4687452/jewish/Confronting-the-Teacher-Who-Incited-an-Anti-Semitic-Riot.htm
Within, Tamarkin describes the 7th-grade-girl "pogrom" she endured at the incitement of one of her teachers. Amid the atrocities throughout Jewish history, it isn't the worst event of Jew-hated you'll ever come across, but for the sensitive young Tamarkin who grew up with these girls and considered them real friends, it was a traumatic betrayal.

We merit a rare finale to the saga when the adult Tamarkin visits the teacher (now a principal) years later.

https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/4969777/jewish/Why-I-No-Longer-Need-My-Holiday-Tree.htm
I think many if not most people can relate to this one. 

Tamarkin discusses the emotional attachment we have to non-Jewish aspects of our former lives. Even FFB people can feel attachment to certain aspects of whatever they experienced in their surroundings.

Also, in a funny twist, the story of Snegurochka ("snow maiden") was one of my favorite fairy tales as a child, so that added another relatable element to the topic as in, "Oh, she knows the beloved Snegurochka of my childhood!" (But in a completely different context. I never knew about Snegurochka's connection to the December holiday.)

Different versions of this fairy tale exist, but the one I knew told of a childless couple who merited a lovely daughter made out of snow named Snegurochka. I don't remember many details, but the basic premise was that one day toward the end of winter, her normally overprotective parents allowed her to go berry-picking (or something like that) with the neighborhood children.

As the morning drifted into afternoon, the day grew warmer.

​Snegurochka got separated from the group. Then they heard her cry out for help, but when they arrived, all that was left of Snegurochka was a puddle of snow.

How deliciously tragic to the young me! 

I don't know what that says about me as a child, but I also loved Little Mermaid (not the Disney gooped-up version, but the real tragic version tempered by the comforting ending about how the foam-absorbed former mermaid earns a soul by reporting all the good deeds of children around the world).

But one of Tamarkin's best turned into a delightful unfolding story in continuing parts, starting here:
https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/4624330/jewish/The-Impossible-Dream-of-a-Chinese-Girl-in-Singapore.htm

!!Spoiler Alert!!

If you don't want spoilers, then just go straight to the above link about the impossible dream of a Chinese girl in Singapore & follow the events & links from there.

Actually, you should read it anyway before continuing so you'll know what the rest of this post is talking about.

Anyway, that article made me feel so intrigued. 

Also, Tamarkin described everything in a way that allows to you to experience it as if you were there with her.

Judging by the comment section, I saw I wasn't the only one who yearned to know what happened to that irresistibly sweet & mysterious Chinese girl with her page of Tehillim, and who tiptoed around Singapore's Chabad House out of her great attraction to Judaism.

Yes, Tamarkin managed to find out that the sweet 16-year-old Chinese girl was on her way to converting, but didn't know any more.

The comment section continued to fill with comments wishing to know more.

​Me too!

Then comments came in from readers who thought they knew her, claiming her name was Elisheva and she was now a Lubavitcher rebbetzin. 

Others remembered her as a fantastic teacher in England whom they referred to as "Miss Yu."

Fortunately, readers thought to send Tamarkin's article to the formerly "timid yet determined" Chinese girl and...bingo!

Now the mother of a little girl & married to an Italian convert, Elisheva (Yu) Martinetti contacted Tamarkin to let her know what became of her in the end.

Here is the result:
https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/4691797/jewish/How-the-Impossible-Dream-of-a-Chinese-Girl-Turned-Jewish-Came-True.htm

Then they conducted an interview with Elisheva Martinetti.

Despite describing herself as having "an introverted nature," she ended up as an impassioned enthusiastic teacher of Chassidic thought to frum girls in England.

You can tell she has really found herself in Torah Judaism. She seems like she was born frum.

Here it is:
https://www.chabad.org/multimedia/video_cdo/aid/4764886/jewish/A-Chinese-Girls-Journey-to-Judaism.htm

And of course, Elisheva's husband David Martinetti also has a powerful story about his own journey:
https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/4819005/jewish/From-Catholic-Italian-to-Jewish-Rabbi-David-Martinetti-Shares-His-Story.htm
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And then a video of them both telling their shidduch story:
​https://www.chabad.org/multimedia/video_cdo/aid/4785894/jewish/How-the-Chinese-Girl-Who-Became-Jewish-Found-Her-Soulmate.htm

END OF SPOILER

​​It was unusually fun & exciting to follow each installment as it unfolded because I read the first article when the identity & fate of the sweet Chinese girl was still a mystery, then followed it as it developed.

How often do we get this kind of closure in real life? 

And with this kind of inspiring, spiritual, Jewish theme!

I hope all this gives you some good, geshmak Jewish reading.

Note: No one asked me to publicize Tamarkin's writing & she has no idea I even exist. (Update 30/3/21: This was true when the article was first written. As you can see in the comment section, it's no longer true. Such are the "magical" powers of the Internet...) The reason for writing this is that I just really like her writing & wish for others to enjoy it too. 
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A Brief Pesach Post

26/3/2021

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I got caught up in Pesach preparations, and kept meaning to say something about it, but didn't get around to it.

Or I wrote a post, but didn't managed to finish it.

Stuff like that.

I also just found out that we in Eretz Yisrael are changing clocks tonight, which is terrible timing—Erev Pesach.

We lose an hour, plus Leil HaSeder gets pushed back later.

Also, I hate Daylight Savings Time. It always feels so unnatural to me. The days naturally grow longer on their own, so why push it to the limit? In times like these, I wish I was Satmar because they don't follow Israeli government dictates—including changing clocks.

You need to be aware of this if they invite you to a wedding in the summer so you don't come at the wrong time.

And you see that Satmar has the right idea because a real Jewish government would never allow a change of clocks to fall out on Erev Pesach.

(Also, another good thing about Satmar was their Rebbe, Rav Yoel Teitelbaum ztz"l. He was fabulous.)

I've often fantasized about not changing my own clocks & living within my preferred time while the rest of the country saves its daylight...which would mean things like taking my son to school by 9:30 am instead of 8:30 am.

I can't see that working out well.

Anyway, back to Pesach...

Even if you only managed to read this after the Seder, it's still worth checking out Rav Avigdor Miller on Pesach because he makes lots of excellent points in his usual witty way that apply all year 'round:
https://torasavigdor.org/pesach-shiurim/

Also, here are Myrtle Rising Pesach posts, including recipes:
http://www.myrtlerising.com/blog/category/pesach

Chag Kasher V'Same'ach!
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Yet Another Happy Update on Rachel Naomi bat Esther Chana!

22/3/2021

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UPDATE: A knowledgeable, caring reader wrote in to advise that symptoms from a bout of covid-19 can linger for months. For that kind of situation, this reader recommended acupuncture & avoiding all sugar & grains.

May we all merit that Hashem grants us robust health in body & soul!

As of an announcement yesterday, Rachel Naomi bat Esther Chana is HOME!

Her entire family is so grateful for everyone's prayers & good deeds performed in her merit.

However, she still needs lots of davening because she is not yet well.

Thank you very much to everyone whose prayers & deeds brought about this rewarding news.

​Please continue with your wonderful efforts.

​And most of all, thank You Hashem!

For the previous post on Rachel Naomi bat Esther Chana, please see:
​www.myrtlerising.com/blog/another-happy-update-on-rachel-naomi-bat-esther-chana
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How to Achieve the Purpose of Pesach: 3 Goals to Aim for, Plus 1 Simple Method

19/3/2021

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I'm very grateful to the fabulous person sends me Bitachon Weekly every week.

(You can also subscribe to it by emailing a request to: 
 thenewbitachonweekly@gmail.com)


In the Parshat Vayikra 5781 edition of Bitachon Weekly (around page 19), the writer recalls when he asked a tzaddik what inner work to focus on throughout Pesach, and the tzaddik answered to focus on 3 things:
  • ka'as (anger)
  • lies
  • lashon hara (rumor-mongering, slander, gossip, tale-bearing, etc.)

Pesach is an ideal time to work on humility.

The whole idea of deleting puffed-up chametz & replacing it with flat, humble matzah plays a starring role in Pesach preparations and during Pesach itself.

Mitzrayim (Egypt) was a place of gaavah (pride, arrogance).

Moshe Rabbeinu embodied the epitome of humility.

So focusing on bitachon & humility help us leave Mitzrayim in our times!

Anger:
Humble people do not get angry because they know Hashem orchestrates everything—and that He orchestrates everything for each person's best benefit.

So a truly humble person sees no need to feel angry over anything.

Lying:
A truly humble person feels no fear or anxiety or desire to manipulate events to his perceived advantage—all of which lead to lying.

Lashon Hara:
A humble person feels no need to raise himself by denigrating others.

A humble person feels no satisfaction or gloating over the flaws or suffering of others that leads to lashon hara.

Rav Yechezkel Levenstein recommended learning Chovot Levavot/Duties of the Heart during Pesach because that really helps people feel Hashem. (The chapter entitled Shaar HaBitachon/Gate of Trust especially helps.)

A unique concept in Judaism is that Hashem does not judge us by results.

He only judges us on effort.

In other words, you don't need to succeed in order to succeed.

You only need to try.

One Navordak Method for Pesach

One Navordak method is:
  • Choose 1 middah to break once a day by going against your own ratzon (desire) each day of Pesach.

This means, for example, if you love overeating matzah spread with butter, you refrain from eating it once a day.

When you feel the urge to surf online for no reason or check your social media for the ninety-eighth time, you refrain once a day.

If you feel the urge to make a critical remark, you say something nice instead.

If you feel like getting angry, you bite your lip (or restrain your hands or feet) and say, "Ein od bilvado" or "Gam zu l'tovah" instead.

If you feel like mentioning something on Shabbat or chag that is not in the spirit of the holy day, you keep silent or bring up something from the parshah.

Once a day.

As always, these baby-steps MATTER.

Don't let people convince you they don't.

They definitely matter.

Rav Avigdor Miller, Rav Itamar Schwartz, the Navordak mussar, and other great people...they all emphasize the importance of baby steps.

​It's not me saying this; it's them.

May we all merit a Pesach that is truly kosher and joyous!
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The Best Paths to Come Close to Hashem: Rav Avigdor Miller on Parshat Vayikra

18/3/2021

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In Rav Avigdor Miller's dvar Torah for Parshas Vayikra 4 – Coming Close to Hashem, Rav Miller emphasizes how coming close to Hashem does not only mean thinking about Him (although that's an essential part of Divine closeness).

We learn from the avodah (holy service) of walking toward the Mizbe'ach (Altar) that your feet also play a part in coming close to Hashem—in other words, it's physical movement too.

How to Cultivate Holy Feet

Once upon a time, Bnei Yisrael walked to Yerushalayim for the prime holy days of Sukkot, Pesach, and Shavuot.

Shir HaShirim (Song of Songs) 7:2 also praises the shoed feet of Am Yisrael. Not everyone wore shoes back then, but when you set out on a journey toward Hashem, you needed shoes.

​How do we access this today?

Rav Miller offers the example of a successful professional man who comes home after a busy, demanding day of work.

But after that full day, he still needs to go to shul to daven Maariv. He needs to go to the Beit Medrash to learn Torah.

​As Rav Miller describes on page 6:
He wants to sit on the couch with his legs up on a chair – why not; he had a long day.

But he reminds himself of the words of Dovid Hamelech and he picks up his weary body and goes straight to the house he loves most; to the house of his Best Friend to sit there as long as he can.

And his wife understands that; she says, “When you go there, take me along with you. I can’t go in body but I’m there in spirit.”

Sometimes she has to urge him too; she says, “Hurry up, you might miss maariv.”

And so he takes the hint and gains an alacrity and she has a 100% share.

She goes together with him even though she’s busy at home.

Even though a person cannot do this all the time—he needs to work, the shul caretaker needs everyone out so he can lock up, etc.—the main point is his desire to come close to Hashem, to serve Hashem through his tefillah or limud Torah.

Making the Most of Your Moments in a Shul

Rav Miller notes the laws of respecting a shul include things like if you forgot your umbrella or coat in shul, you can't just go in a take your umbrella.

No, you need to sit down for a moment—even if you're in a hurry.

Even better, daven or learn something during that moment.

As you pass by a shul or yeshivah, Rav Miller advises going in and just sitting for a bit.

Luxuriate in the ambience.

And say or think to yourself: ​“I’m sitting here now in the beis haknesses because I’m doing what I can to be physically close to Hashem.”

When you come to do your daily davening (or for some women, your Shabbat davening), Rav Miller advises you to say, “We’re happy that we are using our feet to walk closer to Hashem.”

How to Utilize Talmidei Chachamim: A User's Manual

The Shechinah rests on real talmidei chachamim.

So another way to come close to Hashem is to get yourself near a real talmid chacham.

Because my husband's regular kollel where he'd been learning for several years now (he works too, BTW) kept closing due to covid-19 restrictions and then made demands for vaccinated learners only, my husband started learning at a kollel closer to home.

This kollel was run by a very sweet & humble talmid chacham who lived in an old-fashioned world of Torah. This kollel attracted like-minded avrechim.

And I saw how my husband's countenance changed just as he prepared to go out the door to learn there. When he spoke about the rosh kollel, his face developed a soft, awed look.

And even though my husband carries the super-kosher Hadran cell phone, he felt embarrassed entering the kollel with even the Hadran cell phone—and even with the phone in his pocket & completely shut off.

No one said anything to him about it or lectured or criticized—apparently, everyone is super nice there.

But just the atmosphere affected him this way. A super-filtered cell phone in muzzle-mode still felt "wrong" in such a place.

This clearly results from the Shechinah obviously resting on one who is a genuine talmid chacham—one whose Torah is in his heart, in addition to his head.

On pages 9-11, Rav Miller offers practical suggestions to achieve this. 

Frankly, I found the reading a bit painful because it really made me feel the loss of the people he mentioned, like the Satmerer Rav, Rav Moshe Feinstein, Rav Aharon Kotler, and Rav Kaminetzky.

​Ouch!

But it's important to read it anyway.

Kiruv Starts at Home

Along these lines, Rav Miller emphasizes the importance of associating with fellow frummies.

This isn't PC nowadays, but over the long term, it's true.

You really get so affected by whom you associate with.

The Pele Yoetz & Orchot Tzaddikim emphasize this too.

Kiruv is a popular fashionable mitzvah in our times and it's definitely important, no doubt.

​I definitely benefited from people involved in kiruv!

After all, I was not born into a frum family. So a big thank you to all those who helped me out along the way (and to those who still help me—still a work-in-progress, after all!).

However, involvement with the irreligious isn't has simple as presented, especially nowadays. Because of an increasingly corrupt value system reaching mainstream acceptance, it's even worse now than it was in Rav Miller's time.

So you should seek to live near frum neighbors, if you possibly can.

BTW, in my opinion, this offers healthy pushback against the well-meaning pressure to do kiruv.

At one point, my husband & I worked in kiruv. Once, my husband was the rav of a small shul and another time, we were part of a kiruv kollel.

Sounds fulfilling & idealistic, but it wasn't. These things really are not as la-dee-dah & straight-foward as presented.

I'm very much a clean-up-my-own-backyard-first personality, so outreach really knocked me off balance.

Some people can do it really well and Hashem made them for kiruv.

But most aren't, whether they want to admit it or not.

We frummies have enough to work out with each other, so for the majority of frum Jews, it's best to focus on that.

Choose Your Connections Wisely

Along these lines, Rav Miller states (page 14):
As much as possible associate only with good ones.

Don’t visit the others, don’t let them visit you. 

As much as possible cling to the good people, the frum people.

Look for good neighbors, good chaveirim and good teachers.

That’s the derech in life to bring yourself closer to Hashem.

Rav Miller quotes the Gemara Bava Basra to support the above statement.

Pele Yoetz & Orchot Tzaddikim and the Kli Yakar all say the same thing.

Unfortunately, due to an overidealistic interpretation of both ahavat Yisrael & sinat chinam, we are often pressured to go overboard in connecting with others & giving the benefit of the doubt in an unhealthy way to people who don't really fit the halacha.

You can note a person's positive aspects while still recognizing that the certain behaviors are not okay.

You never need to find approval for outright forbidden behavior.

Doing so transgresses the prohibition against chanifah—often translated as "flattery," but it really means so much more than that. Chanifah basically means showing approval of behavior that Hashem does not approve of.

Orchot Tzaddikim includes an entire chapter just on chanifah—very worthwhile reading!

Or you can read what the Pele Yoetz says about it here: 
​https://learntorah.com/PeleYoetz/Pdf/English121.pdf 

If you read the actual words of Chazal—and not just what you hear in a well-meaning lectures or articles—you'll learn the following:

Respectfully keep a distance from people who bring you down while look to spend time with people who elevate you 

People sometimes maintain harmful relationships of frequent contact with people who do not influence them positively.

I did this too and it's a big challenge later to get that cynical, mocking voice out of your head.

On the other hand, the people on a much higher level left an imprint that remains with me until today.

Some were great people older than me, and one was younger than me, but very good & wise.

They don't have to be the greatest tzaddikim in the world; they just need to be better than you. That's a great start.

Luckily, Hashem brought me to encounters with people much greater than me—regardless of how "regular" they seemed on the outside.

Here are some posts on those experiences:​
  • http://www.myrtlerising.com/blog/the-stunning-greatness-of-a-regular-jew-leah​
  • ​www.myrtlerising.com/blog/the-stunning-greatness-of-a-regular-jew-gitty
  • ​http://www.myrtlerising.com/blog/the-true-story-of-an-undercover-angel
  • http://www.myrtlerising.com/blog/the-stunning-greatness-of-a-regular-jew-growing-from-a-girl-trapped-in-a-suitcase-to-a-woman-of-grace-emunah

The Final Words on Closeness to Hashem

Let's conclude with the words of Rav Miller on page 15:
And the people who come close to Him in this world...You who cling to Hashem physically in Olam Hazeh...you will live forever and ever with Him in the Next World.

Kirvas Elokim; that’s our success and that’s our happiness forever and ever.
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Credit for all quotes & material goes to Toras Avigdor.

​And don't forget to check out the Practical Tip on page 15!


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Encouraging Message & Iniative about Baby Steps toward the Geula

17/3/2021

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Here is another encouraging message from Hadassa R. about using baby steps to sweeten & hasten the Geula:
Can I share a well known secret with you?


It's this - B’Nissan Nigalu U'b’Nissan Asidin Lehigo’el. 


You know what else is a well known secret? 


This one – Bizchus Nashim Tzidkaniyos Nig’alu Avoseinu Mimitzrayim U'vezchus Nashim Tzidkaniyos Asidin Lehigoel. 


A golden opportunity has been granted to us! It's now Chodesh Nissan! It's Chodesh HaGeula! 

We're in a powerful time period & are adding additional power to create dynamite!! The power & Nachas Ruach that is generated through the actions or N'Shei Yisroel cannot be estimated or approximated! 

We know that Hashem is calling for us. We have been shown it – and have felt it. 
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In the last few weeks – hundreds of Nashim Tzikanios worldwide have taken to answering the call of Hashem – in myriads of ways – which is so refreshing and beautiful, & now at the onset of Chodesh Nissan in which the real reality of the showdown of revealed Geula/Gilui Shechina/Mashiach ben Dovid/Bais Hamikdash can take place in front of our physical eyes – let's power up this planet with all that we have to offer!

It's not the big people out there.
It's not the big things out there.

But it is YOU & I – the unassuming simple ones who are making more of an effort/improvement in the every-day things in life – thereby focusing more on Hashem and His calling to us. 

See for yourself what so many other simple (yet very great) women have done, are doing, and will continue doing – to prove to Hashem that we have heard, we have understood, we have responded, & we are ready to see His Malchus reign in full glory!

The time is now. 
We cannot let the opportunity slip by. 
And how we will rejoice with such pride!

Feel free to open the attached link and add your effort. A PDF version is also attached in case you can't open the link – see for yourself what is going on. Don't take my word...

Do you spend time on any social media platform? (Whatsapp/instagram/email hangout/facebook/blogs/etc..) Why not consider sharing this post there? Don't be shy! Don't be afraid! All the zechusim that get generated are credit to YOU! Do you think it's worth it to pass it up?! 

We have no idea how all the zechusim generated thus far are impacting the turn of events – but rest-assured – we are creating the greatest vessel in which the light of Geula is rising to shine! 

Reminds me of the story with The Little Engine that Could –  "....I think I can, I think I can, I think I can....." (old time classic!)
Who will pull us over the "mountain" and help us see the end of this dark & painful Galus?! Hashem will! And He is using our small efforts!

This year – our homes & Neshamos will glow together! It's the most spectacular Pesach cleaning we can do!

Kol Hakavod N'Shei Yisroel!
Ashreichen!


Hadassa
hadassaroberg@gmail.com

https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1YJqo5mh1fqWCCeoWPdSUXZ-yEDSbdz4xAJiJ0VWcV3A/edit#gid=0

PDF Version – Bizchus Nashim Tzidkaniyos
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A Life-Saving Q&A with Rabbi Shimon Gruen: What If You Don't Like Your Child?

16/3/2021

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In Rabbi Shimon Gruen's weekly email Torah Lessons for the Home: Parshas Terumah 5781, he presents a meaningful question from a struggling mother:

What if you don't like your children?

Yes, you probably love them. But what if you don't like them (whether one or all)?

Over the years, I noticed that in every family, there is at least 1 child to whom the parent finds very hard to relate.

If you have 2 kids, then it will be one of them.

If you have 10 kids, then it will be at least one of them.

And if you have one child? Well, it shocked me to realize how many only children suffer lots of friction or emotional distance from either their mother or their father.

Certainly, it doesn't always happen. But I've seen it happen a lot.

As one only child (secular Jewish mother, non-Jewish father, secular Jewish stepfather) described, "I could understand my mother if she had other children. But I'm all she has. So why not try harder to develop a relationship with me, even if she can't relate to me so much—because after all, I'm all she's got?"

Sometimes, it's the same child for both parents. Other times, one child presents a challenge for the mother while another child presents a challenge for the father.

Sometimes it manifests in a particular age the parent finds difficult.

​For example, some women dread the first 4 months of dealing with an infant more than they dread giving birth, and feel much relief when the child turns into a toddler. Others love the baby months, but feel miserable dealing with toddlers or small children. And others dread the teen years. And so on. (This is all normal, by the way.) 

Sometimes, it's based on gender. Traditionally, the focus has been on those who favor a boy over a girl. But I've seen several cases in which mothers who dislike men bring that into her parenting by disdaining her son. 

(Interestingly, parents who favor a child based on gender rarely feel bad about this. They admit it outright, sometimes even with pride or an attitude that it's self-evident to love more or less according to gender. I'm not into people feeling bad, but whether a parent dislikes a child for being a girl or a boy, it actually is a problem and should be dealt with in a compassionate manner, rather than being justified or ignored.)

Sometimes, it's obvious to all why the parent struggles with that child; the child is objectively challenging.

Yet other times, it's the sweet, quiet, thoughtful child who continuously drives the mother out of her mind—for no apparent reason.

​As one mother of such a child told me, "Because I'm insecure, his insecurity makes me feel worse."

She favored her energetic rambunctious son over the sweet, obedient one.

The odd thing was...her sweet quiet son wasn't insecure! 

Yes, she saw him that way. But he wasn't actually how she viewed him.

Seeing this dynamic repeatedly made me realize that Hashem created families in a way that a parent will find at least one child very challenging—and dealing with that challenge is exactly what helps a person grow.

In fact, mothers have told me that when they worked on liking the child they related to the least, they found themselves liking other people with that child's personality—people they either did not like or could not relate to before.

In other words, the child most personally challenging to the mother paradoxically became the catalyst for the mother's increased ahavat Yisrael in general.

This is a wonderfully positive outcome of being honest with yourself about your true—albeit initially negative—feelings toward a child, which allows you to get to work in that area, which then reaps unexpectedly positive results.

Another friend accidently admitted that she could not see any positive qualities in any of her kids' personalities, except for one positive quality in one child (tactfulness).

Occasionally, one parent behaves in a way that places a wedge between the other parent and one or more of the children (bad-mouthing the other parent, siding with the child against the other parent, rewarding difficult behavior—such as crying, insulting, tantrums, chutzpah, tattling, physical aggression, etc., which makes the child extremely unpleasant for the other parent to deal with). 

Anyway, because such feelings are taboo in society, plus mothers themselves feel terribly ashamed of such feelings, it's hard to get help.

This presents an odd paradox because the surrounding secular society demeans (and even subtly discourages) family, family values, children, motherhood, consistently focusing on the negative aspects (while occasionally offering lip service to the positives of parenthood)...yet this same society looks down on a mother who doesn't like her child. 

And it's hard to even admit to oneself that one doesn't really like one child, let alone all or most of them.

Furthermore, not everyone responds well if you confide this to them.

Yet if a parent feels this way, it's important to address the issue WITHOUT self-flagellation, toxic shame, and all that negative static.

Personally, I don't see a need to look down on a parent for such feelings (especially since the parent really doesn't want to feel this way & is unpleasantly taken by surprise by the negative feelings).

But if the parent refuses to deal with the issue and instead treats the child badly or neglectfully without trying to improve the situation? Well then...hmm.

Fortunately, Rabbi Shimon Gruen brilliantly & compassionately addressed the issue of a mother who finds it difficult to like her children. The question & answer (used with his permission) are presented in full here: 

Question

Dear Rabbi Gruen,
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I have a very short question, yet it really affects every part of my Chinuch Habonim.

It’s not something I’m proud to say, yet I wonder if I’m the only one who’s feeling this way, or simply the only brave enough to admit it to myself, and present it in an anonymous forum.

I honestly find it difficult to like my children.

I find them annoying and bothersome, and not at all enjoyable or likeable. I once heard someone mention the difficulty of liking the people you love, and I can really relate to it.

Of course I love my children, but so often I have this feeling of them being so unlikeable, if you know what I mean. Is there anything you can tell me that will help me out?

Maybe there are others who will benefit from hearing your response on this as well.

Thanks in advance.

Answer

I will start by affirming your letter, you are definitely definitely not the only one not the only one who sometimes feels this way.

While others may experience such feelings, many people wouldn’t address it and therefore leave these negative feelings resolved.

As unfortunate and sad as this might be to acknowledge, it is still important to be aware of our feelings.

Trying to deny them or bury them won’t be helpful to anyone. Knowing the problem is half the solution.

Additionally, when we are open about the way we feel, we often learn that we are not the only one experiencing an issue, and we might find support and/or help from others who are going through, or have gone through, the same thing.

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It’s interesting to note that we have quite a bit of autonomy when it comes to choosing certain people that we are surrounded with. We get to pick friends, vet neighbors, and choose country-mates. In fact, in some sense, we even have a choice when we decide upon a spouse! But when it comes to our kids, we have no choice.

That is because as much as we’d like to enjoy our children and see nachas from them, that was not what they were made for.

As much as we daven and plead for nachas from our children and that we should be able to take pride in the way they turn out, it is not something that we can always acquire.

In fact, many people never get to be proud of their children, no matter the efforts they pour into them!

Raising children is a responsibility, and while we hope and pray that it will be gratifying and fulfilling, it isn’t about the profits or the gains. It’s about putting in the work.

The outcome isn’t up to us, and doesn’t even matter, because the whole point of being a parent is to perfect our middos and become better people.

This might sound a bit idealistic, but it’s the truth.

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Often, when a parent feels negative emotions towards their child, it is because the child failed to live up to the parent’s expectations of him. We expect to see returns from our hard work, and when they fall short, we love them less.

Remember that you are not spending time with your child so that you can enjoy yourself. 

Even if you find every moment agonizing and annoying, it is still part of your job. It is your responsibility to build your child up and give him a good atmosphere, and your interpretation of the experience doesn’t even factor into the equation.

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But it generally doesn’t end at fulfilling your obligations.

Giving breeds love, and the more you give to your child – selflessly – the more you will come to like him.

It doesn’t mean giving in to your child’s every whim, but it does mean giving away from yourself.

We sometimes might wonder why we love babies so much. We don’t realize that babies take a lot out of us, and we give to them without expecting much in return. After all, they’re just babies! Because of the selfless nature of our giving, it is so easy to love them.

As kids grow up, they need us less and less as they learn to be more independent, and thus, we have less opportunities to give to them.

We can see this a lot by parents of special needs children. They will often admit to loving their special needs child more than they have ever loved any of their kids.

Why is that?

Because they don’t expect anything from these kids. They have complete clarity over what their role with this child is and so they give and give and give.

It’s also possible that they don’t blame themselves for their child’s deficiency, whereas when there is a different kind of disappointment, some parents do blame themselves.

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​When a person is looking for ways only to gratify himself, he will find many things difficult.

But if he lives his life in the context of serving Hashem, his lifestyle will be completely different.

If we would sit inside the succah for our own pleasure, we can find 100 reasons to complain. It’s hot, it’s cold, it’s cramped, it’s wet. When we go inside the succah because we want to serve Hashem as He has commanded us, we enter feeling privileged and excited to be able to do this mitzvah.

It isn’t about attaining super lofty madreigos; it’s just about a mindset switch. 

What am I doing here, and why?

When you understand that your children were given to you as part of your avodas Hashem, and not as “nachas machines”, raising them will turn into an entirely different experience.

Children help us work on our middos, teach us to be givers, help us practice our patience.

The Gemara says that a parent is an “oseh tzedakah b’chol eis” – one who does good deeds all the time.

Giving a bottle to a child, listening to a long and winded report of his day, or driving him to a friend’s house, all of that is part of our exalted avodah.

​When our goal is to give, not to get, we develop a newfound appreciation and love for our children.

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Another way to accomplish this would be to focus on our children’s attributes.

Don’t make your affection dependent on their good qualities, but do yourself a favor and remind ​yourself often of what it is that makes your child special.
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Of course, all this is often easier said than done, especially when we are granted children who are especially challenging.

We need to be very careful, though, never to be ashamed of our children.

Children should never feel like their parents are disappointed in them or that they’re constantly being compared to others.

They are not equipped to handle such feelings.

Moreover, the ones that you think cause you the most embarrassment, might be the very ones that need you on their side the most and the ones who will help you reach your ultimate tachlis.

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If you sit around waiting for your child to bring you nachas so that you can then finally find it in your heart to love him, you are essentially killing the messenger.

Most kids can only grow into their best selves once they feel accepted and loved by their parents.

When you are willing to put in the work, no matter what the outcome will be, you will often be surprised by the positive results.
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When we will view our children through the lens of our avodas Hashem, it will help us approach parenting the right way.

With Hashem’s help, we will then merit to see much nachas from them gezunterheit.

With best wishes,
Rabbi Shimon Gruen

To contact Rabbi Gruen please call 718.841.6557 or e-mail rabbigruen@lehair.org

To subscribe to receive the weekly essay, please email parshalessons@lehair.org
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Website: www.lehair.org

Please feel free to send any questions, on this topic or any topic to rabbigruen@lehair.org
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"Faced with Grace": A Heartfelt Experience Captured in Poetry by Nechumelle Jacobs

14/3/2021

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Those of you following this blog for a while probably remember the inspiring poems written by Nechumelle Jacobs in England.

You also know that after a protracted battle and many prayers, her amazing husband, R' Yisroel Jacobs, passed away not long ago at the age of 47.

"Filled with Grace" centers on their chasuna (wedding) portrait, which still holds a special place on the wall of the home they shared.

I've seen the portrait and it really is a very special image.

In addition to them being good-looking people on their wedding day, there is something indefinably beautiful emanating from their smiling faces.

It's easy to understand why the carers (the employees of the residence who assist the residents with their needs) also feel struck by the image they encounter as they come to carry out their daily tasks.

R' Yisroel was a valuable part of the frum community & a wonderful influence on everyone who encountered him, whether it was casual or via his work in the Lubavitcher mitzvah tank.

Such a special person is certainly a melitz yosher (an advocate) for us in Shamayim (Heaven).

Nechumelle's poems always touch my heart, but this poem in particular stands out for its expression of faithful gratitude in the face of profound loss and also one of pure & wholehearted love—the ideal in marriage.
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To read previous posts about R' Yisroel & Nechumelle Jacobs, please see here:
Posts about Nechumelle Jacobs​

FACED WITH GRACE

On the wall I face throughout the day
Our chasuna portrait is on display

On my husband’s face the Shechina does shine
We were in partnership with the Divine

Yes – we were both sitting in wheelchairs
But truly content – full of joy, not despair

Each time I lift my eyes and on it rest my glance
I am grateful I was zoicha to get the chance

That with my husband I could share these years
With this in mind I am not overcome with tears

The carers too by the picture are mesmerised
They look at it as though they are hypnotised

I am comforted as serenity the photo does impart
I feel at one with him, it really warms my heart

I am comforted, knowing he is a melitz yosher for me
It gives our relationship in essence its continuality


©Nechumelle Jacobs – 11 March, 2021
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Bilvavi Links to Enhance Your Month of Nissan

12/3/2021

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Here are some Bilvavi links to get us in a Nissan state of mind:

http://www.bilvavi.net/files/Bilvavi.Woman-s.Power.of.Speech.pdf
"The special ability in the month of Nissan is identified as the power of speech/'sichah'."

www.bilvavi.net/english/essence-month-001-nissan-speech-and-prayer

http://www.bilvavi.net/english/rosh-chodesh-mazal-001-nissan-lamb-part-1
The astrological sign associated with the month of Nissan is Taleh/Lamb/Ram/Aries.

http://www.bilvavi.net/english/rosh-chodesh-tribe-001-nissan-shevet-yehudah
The Tribe associated with Nissan is Yehudah.

http://www.bilvavi.net/files/Bilvavi.Cleaning.For.Pesach.pdf

http://www.bilvavi.net/files/Bilvavi.Hagaddah.pdf

NEW! (Regarding COVID-19)

Also, Bilvavi recently published a new collection of translations of the transcripts of the lectures of Rav Itamar Schwartz!:

http://www.bilvavi.net/files/Bilvavi.Corona.Talks.pdf 
(62 pages)

http://www.bilvavi.net/files/Bilvavi.Faith.and.Trust.In.Uncertain.Times.pdf 
(12 pages—it also discusses the covid-19 saga)

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