This week's Kli Yakar is dedicated l'ilui the pure neshamah of Hallel Yaffa bat Rina v'Amichai, the innocent 13-year-old girl who was savagely murdered as she slept in her bed in Kiryat Arba this past Thursday morning, 24 Sivan 5776/2016. Hashem yinkom damah.
"And they rose before Moshe with 250 men from Bnei Yisrael, princes of the congregation, representatives of the assembly, men of repute." (16:2)
The institution of marriage is a special type of authority.
Beresheit states that the husband shall "rule" over the wife, which is supposed to produce an authority of love, halachic guidance, and protection.
As a result, this authority actually possesses more halachic obligations for the husband toward his wife than it does for the wife toward the husband.
Furthermore, the unity of a Jewish marriage is one permeated with a kedushah (holiness) so powerful that true shalom between the couple can cause the very Shechinah to rest upon their home.
Yet the arrogant person doesn't care a whit.
As the Kli Yakar states:
The haughty person [המתגאה] cannot endure even this authority, in which she [the wife] is under the hand of someone else.
He doesn't see her as belonging to her husband. He has no respect for the holy institution of marriage. As far as the narcissistic person is concerned, the husband is just "someone else."
And the narcissist feels he has every right to a woman just by virtue of the fact that he wants her, married or not.