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What's behind the Panda's Cuteness Factor? How the Panda Bear Reveals God in the World & Defies Evolution

29/7/2021

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Why do so many hearts melt over pandas—especially baby pandas?

Why do some people invest so much time & money to travel to China, including a 2-hour ride to the panda center outside Chengdu, plus additional payments for the entrance fee ($9) & actually cuddling a panda ($307)?

Much has been researched & written about the panda's "cute" factor.

But upon discovering how the panda's existence stumps scientists because it defies evolution, I realized our real affection & fascination for pandas emanates from the panda as living proof of Divine creation—and nature's most adorable argument against evolution.
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LOOKING FOR PROOF OF CREATIONISM? HERE IS GOD'S MOST ADORABLE EVIDENCE.

Argument #1: Pandas are Carnivores Through & Through

Evolutionists have most of the world believing that, given enough time, biology can mutate into a whole variety of unfathomably complex & sophisticated creatures.

For evolutionists, no possibility is too far out.

​For example, the panda bear could theoretically continue to evolve within bamboo forests of the mountains of southwestern China until it reaches this stage of evolution (or devolution, as the case may be):
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However, that just ain't so.

In fact, the panda's current manifestation could never occur via evolution.

The panda bear is an anti-evolution phenomenon.

Why?

First of all, the panda's entire digestive system (including its teeth) is set up to eat meat.

Yes, biologically speaking, panda bears are absolute carnivores.

In the wild, giant pandas supplement their bamboo diet by hunting small rodents—but even then, meat comprises less than 1% of their diet.

In captivity, a panda will eat meat when given it (and digest it just fine!), but rarely seeks out meat on its own.

Not only that, the panda stomach is not built to digest bamboo.

The panda possesses a classic carnivore stomach.

Experts describe how the high-bamboo diet harms pandas by slowing its metabolism, making the panda bear sluggish, and causing pregnant pandas a harmfully short gestation, which thus produces an underdeveloped cub—even at full-term.

Scientifically speaking, all the challenges pandas suffer stem from its carnivore biology subsisting on a herbivore diet, which evolved over time and for some reason, cannot evolve back to its natural eating habits of meat (of which there is no lack in the bamboo forests in the mountains of China).

So the panda is stuck with a completely unnatural & unhealthy diet because of evolution & cannot "evolve" back into a meat-based diet, even though it is built to digest meat, meat would be healthier for it, and plenty of meat is available for the taking in its immediate environment.

​Instead, the giant panda continues to feast inefficiently on bamboo.

That makes no logical sense.

(BTW, all this alleged regression leaves evolutionists scrambling to reframe it all as the progress of evolutionary adaptation over millions of years. We'll see the truth below.) 

Argument #2: The Bamboo Paradox

​The giant panda genome lacks the genes for any known enzymes that break down the plant fibers found in bamboo.

However, the giant panda gut holds 20 different bacteria that helps break down the plant fibers. Panda bears share 13 of those bacteria with herbivores (even though, as stated, panda pears are NOT biologically herbivores) while 7 of those bacteria are unique to pandas.

How did pandas "evolve" to create something that exists nowhere else (especially since, as you'll see below, pandas are actually devolving)?

How did it manage to "evolve" 7 of them?

Perhaps genetic adaptation accounts for it (after all, the bacteria already exist).

But even more problematic: Out of the massive amounts of bamboo a panda eats (around 20-40 pounds daily), it digests only 17% percent of any bamboo it consumes.

It takes the panda 14 hours each day to consume that much bamboo.

Furthermore, the bamboo cannot provide the panda with the nutrients it needs.

Even more bizarrely, bamboo contains a toxin that produces cyanide (yes, the deadly poison) in any mammal gut.

​​In other words, it's impossible for a panda to live on a diet of 99% bamboo.

​Yet it does.
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PANDA BEAR CHEWING ON BAMBOO STALKS

Argument #3: Panda Reproduction Resists Population Growth 

Pandas are only fertile for 10 years & only at specific narrow windows during that decade.

Furthermore, pandas only get pregnant around every 2 years.

Six cubs remain the absolute most a panda mother might birth in her lifetime.

But most female pandas produce around 4 cubs throughout her lifetime.

But even those 4-6 cubs don't represent true panda reproduction.

Panda cubs often don't survive.

Why?

In contrast to their lovable cuteness, pandas make really awful mothers.

I know, I know.

It hurts me as much to write this as it does for you to read this.

I'm also fond of pandas.

But the truth must be told.

First of all, half of panda births result in twins.

When that happens, the panda mother abandons the weaker twin & invests all her nurturing in the stronger twin, leaving the weaker twin to die.

(Researchers insist this results from the mommy panda's lack of milk & energy to care for more than one cub at a time—however, as you'll see below, that's not true. So panda mothers are bad guesstimators, in addition to everything else.)

Furthermore, panda newborns are tiny and panda mothers are gargantuan.

In fact, at around 200 pounds, the panda mother weighs around 900 times as much as her 3-5 ounce newborn.

That's a rare outlier as far as mammals go. (A whale weighs 50 times as much her newborn, for example, while a polar bear mother weighs 400 times the weight of her cub.)

So it's pretty common for a panda mother to accidentally crush her cub by sitting or rolling over on it.

In fact, mother pandas have even unintentionally crushed their cubs while nursing.

And why are panda cubs born so small?

They're actually born as preemies.

Meaning, even a full-term panda cub enters the world with the characteristics & deficiencies of a premature cub.

​The very bones of a full-term panda cub are underdeveloped, making them even more vulnerable than previously thought.

One article went so far as to state one reason for the low survival rate of baby pandas is because "they don't have the right habitat."

Wait a minute—baby pandas evolved in a habitat all wrong for them?

Evolutionarily speaking, how on earth could that happen?

Combine the above factors with the threat of predators (snow leopard, jackals, martens) who all live in the same mountains as pandas & prey on panda cubs...you see how it takes a miracle for each individual cub to make it to adulthood.​  
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YELLOW-THROATED MARTEN
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SNOW LEOPARD
In captivity, panda caretakers make sure to remove the baby pandas from their mothers soon after birth.

Interestingly, caretakers manage twins by alternating them between their mother & their incubator.

In this way, the twins are both fed & protected. (Though not always. There was that 2006 nursing incident mentioned above...)

If necessary, the caretakers supplement the mother's milk with special formulas, but generally, the mothers seem capable of producing enough milk for two.

So panda mothers DO have the energy & milk to care for two—they just FEEL they don't.
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PANDA CUBS IN CHINA

What Does the Science Say?

Most articles on pandas mention scientists' confusion regarding pandas.

Pandas suffer derogatory labels like "evolutionary cul-de-sac" and "one of evolution's less successful products" and "evolutionary dead-end" and "evolutionary mistake" and so on.

Yet at the same time, scientists focus on research that contradict their personal views on the giant panda's own contradictions.

(If pandas really do prove to be evolutionary dead-ends or mistakes—and they do—then that actually provides evidence against evolution. Scientists do not want that.)

Pandas remain full of contradictions, yet scientists continue to put out seemingly explanatory statements that, when pondered for a whole minute, actually make no sense.

So here we go:

  • Pandas as Evidence of Devolution

For example, scientists crown the suicidally small size & weak bone structure of newborn pandas as "a brilliant breeding strategy" and "definitely the result of millions of years of evolution."

​However, between the newborn vulnerabilities & the lethally poor parenting common in mother pandas (not to mention deadly forest predators), baby pandas are barely viable.

As mentioned above, one article explained part of the reason for the low survivability of baby pandas results from not being born in "the right habitat."

So how could they have survived so long?

It helps to understand why scientists deem the incredibly weak panda cub as "a breeding strategy."

​Animal biologists theorize panda cubs experience a shorter gestation & "undercooked" development in order to conserve the mother's energy & resources (because she is undernourished by eating bamboo all day, rather than the meat she is innately designed to eat). 

​But this doesn't even make sense according to their own theories & evidence.

In this case, their evolution produced a weaker being, not a stronger one.

Pandas are less viable.

It's a case of "survival of the most sluggish and least fittest."

Furthermore, scientists postulate that pandas only switched to bamboo LESS than 5000 years ago—so where are the "millions of years of evolution" supposedly resulting in a "breeding strategy"?

(And remember, we don't even know if THAT is accurate because scientists derived evidence from what they claimed were ancient panda fossils dating back 5-7000 years. Are those actual panda fossils—scientists have fudged or erred in these things before—and is that dating remotely accurate?)

Scientists say this bamboo diet slowed the metabolism of pandas—which again, shows devolution.

Scientists claim that the metabolism of pandas slowed down to accommodate their poisonous herbivore intake.

To conserve energy, pandas hardly move in the wild.

(But maybe pandas were always like this. Maybe they were born this contradictory way. How can we know?)

Also, why are giant pandas "giant"? You would think part of their adaptation would lead to pandas the size of poodles. That would conserve a lot more energy AND bamboo.

We see how nutrition affects human beings & mammals; poor nutrition produces a smaller body.

So why does the giant panda simply get stuck with a slow metabolism rather than shrinking like everyone else?

Additionally, scientists go on about how pandas switched to bamboo as an adaption when faced with a dearth of meat.

But this lacks logic too.

​While evolutionists would have you believe that pandas introduced bamboo into their diets gradually (over millions of years!) until it comprised 99% percent of their intake, the truth is, again, scientists declare that pandas only switched to bamboo a few thousand years ago (or less).

Furthermore, bamboo is both mostly indigestible & cannot meet the panda's nutritional needs.

Even more vexing, bamboo is actually poisonous.

Again, fossil studies reported in the year 2019 indicate pandas switched to a bamboo-only diet LESS than 5000 years ago.

At some point, all pandas should have died of digestion issues, poison, and malnutrition.

Yet somehow, the panda lives on.

  • ​The panda's miraculous metabolization of fatal amounts of cyanide-spiked bamboo 

Source from the prestigious Nature magazine (link at end of post): Huang, H. et al. Dietary resources shape the adaptive changes of cyanide detoxification function in giant panda (Ailuropoda melanoleuca). Sci. Rep. 6, 34700; doi: 10.1038/srep34700 (2016)

For example, giant pandas possess cyanide-neutralizing powers, which enable them to absorb more than 65% of the cyanide produced by bamboo.

How did that happen?

(The panda excretes the remaining 35%—somehow without harming the panda as it passes through the panda's digestive system.)

Herbivores (like rabbits) naturally possess the rhodanese pathway necessary for cyanide detoxification.
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But pandas, despite their actual diet, remain pure carnivores with regard to their entire biological system.

So how did they develop a cyanide detoxification system found only in herbivores?

Scientists will tell you, "Why, that's because pandas became herbivores over time! Evolutionary processes!"

But pandas NEVER became herbivores. Yes, they eat herbs (primarily bamboo).

But physically & biologically, pandas remain 100% pure unadulterated CARNIVORES.

In fact, out of all the species in the world, panda bears are phylogenetically most closely related to the decidedly carnivorous POLAR bear! 

So where did this herbivore-only rhodanese pathway for cyanide detoxification come from?

​Just to drive home the point:

​Adult pandas weigh about the same as a fully grown male. The amount of cyanide (55-66 mg) they consume in their daily intake of bamboo is nearly enough to kill a human—and should kill a panda bear...especially when consumed DAILY.

​Molecular mechanisms need to jump into play for this cyanide detoxification to work.

So simply increasing their bamboo intake transformed panda bears at the molecular level WITHOUT interfering with anything else? 

Scientists discovered a mutation in the T1R1 gene in pandas. This basically wipes out the umami (savory, meaty) taste in pandas, which they use to explain why pandas stopped eating meat—it simply no longer tastes "umami" to them. 

(Though the tastes of sweet & salty remain.)

This can make sense within what we know of epigenetics, in which behaviors & thoughts can activate or deactivate different genes.

Could it be that eating bamboo almost exclusively blocked the expression of that gene?

Possibly.

But that doesn't explain why pandas conversely DO continue to eat meat.

As stated earlier, pandas hunt & eat rodents in the wild, plus they eat meat given to them by their keepers in captivity.

​They eat meat despite this genetic mutation that supposedly repels them from eating meat.

  • The mystery of the panda's thumb

Going through scientific articles with all their unscientific terms (speculate, claim, assume, theorize, etc.) and their contradictory arguments & claims (strangely reminiscent of the "twisters" common among narcissists & other manipulators), along with the need to familiarize myself with unfamiliar terminology (phylogenetic! rhodanese!)...well, it's making my brain sag.

But suffice to say that the panda's thumb—perfect for grasping bamboo stalks—intrigues scientists.

And now that the 2019 study of panda fossils indicates a penchant for bamboo LESS than 5000 years ago, is that enough time for evolution to come up with a handy-dandy thumb?

Genetic adaptation to one's environment is no big deal & famously mentioned in the Gemara as the ever-tranquil Hillel answers questions about egg-headed Babylonians, flat-footed Africans, and narrow-eyed Tadmorians (Shabbat 31a).

​But does that include thumbs? Don't know.

​That's all I have to say about it for now.
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  • Wait a minute—HOW did pandas turn from meat & to bamboo again?

No one knows. 

But as always, scientists are happy to dream up intriguing stories—I mean, develop theories.

(Similar to how the ancient Greek geniuses invented mythologies to explain their scientific quandaries.)

​​So the story goes that human habitation pushed pandas into the mountains, where pandas turned to bamboo so as not to compete with the existing carnivorous population.

(Between its submission to a pushy human population & its reluctance to compete with other carnivores—even to its own detriment—pandas come off as very co-dependent.)

Also, this does not fit with the scientists' own theory of evolution.

According to all the principles of evolution, a panda's instincts should cause it to fight for survival, not just acquiesce and be like, "Well, the bamboo is poisonous, lacking in essential nutrients, and indigestible, plus it causes me to produce underdeveloped not-so-viable offspring, AND it makes me lethargic...but what can you do? C'est la vie."

(Especially since pandas don't even speak English or French, but just Chinese, of course.)

And why did pandas not return to eating meat?

After all, they do eat rodents a bit in the wild.

​The bamboo forests host meat: rodents, insects, squirrels, monkeys, jackals, feral dogs, Asian black bears, martens, red pandas (who are not real panda bears, but more like raccoons, weasels, and skunks), snow leopards...many regular bears also even eat their own young—why would a panda bear pass on eating the weaker twin it abandons?

I'm not saying I'd be happy if panda bears ate red pandas or snow leopards or their own offspring. I don't like the idea at all. 

I mean, just look at THIS gorgeous masterpiece of Hashem!:
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RED PANDA (NO RELATION TO THE GIANT PANDA)
But eating meat sure would help the panda!

(Though I prefer pandas stick to less appealing mammals, like rodents, feral dogs, and jackals.)

I also wonder why panda caretakers continue to feed them bamboo? Why not increase their intake of meat to re-activate their umami taste & get their metabolism back on track?

​Let's jumpstart the sluggish, noshing panda bear & its preemie cubs!

Furthermore, all this worry plaguing conservationists about the amount of bamboo in forests needed to sustain pandas?

​If pandas started eating meat (according to their innate biology), that would solve a lot of the bamboo conservation issues.


​As pandas "devolved," don't forget that humans once hunted pandas both for food (though panda meat reportedly does not taste good) and for its coat.

​Also, people once considered pandas monsters and tried to kill them in self-defense (also for their pelt's medicinal & superstitious properties).

All in all, it cannot be emphasized enough:

​According to all science & logic, pandas should not be here.

Pandas are everything evolution isn't.

Our Affection for Pandas Emanates from Its Ability to Reveal Hashem in the World

So now you know the real reason behind the panda's cuteness factor: proof of Hashem's Hand in the world.

Hashem even guides each individual baby panda into adulthood. (How else could its preemie body survive in the wrong habitat with a mother like that?)

Pandas melt our hearts due to their ability to vex evolutionists & reveal Hashem in the world.

​Every panda is a ambling, chewing, roly-poly miracle.
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A pretty interesting & descriptive article from 2019 about why pandas vex scientists:
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/12/191213142424.htm

For details about the panda's miraculous cyanide metabolation:
https://www.nature.com/articles/srep34700

A 2019 study indicating pandas subsisted on bamboo LESS than 5000 years ago:
https://www.iflscience.com/plants-and-animals/pandas-used-to-eat-meat-then-went-vegetarian-but-now-just-eat-bamboo/

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Rav Avigdor Miller on Parshat Ekev: How to Prevent Inner Rebellion & Live with Purpose

28/7/2021

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In Rav Avigdor Miller's dvar Torah for Parshas Ekev 4 – The Good Life, the rav brings ancient Eretz Yisrael to life with a compelling description of Eretz Yisrael looked in the times of Yehoshua bin Nun (pages 3-4).

But it held one Divinely ordained lack: No massive river.

Ancient Babylon & ancient Egypt relied on their massive rivers for irrigation & to meet variety of other needs.

But not Eretz Yisrael.

Hashem held plans for Am Yisrael.

Am Yisrael needed to rely on the unpredictability of rain.

And, as always, that reliance on something so unpredictable led to our betterment.
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Lake Kinneret & the City of Tiveria in northern Eretz Yisrael (Image by Александр Деревяшкин)

Keeping Eyes & Minds Focused in the Right Direction

A farmer's eyes always turn toward the Heavens.

A society dependent on rain constantly checks the sky.

Is that a rain cloud—or a storm cloud?

Is that crop-destroying hail?

Is it snow?

Is that a tornado-spawning cloud?

Or is that a cloud of locusts?

Throughout Laura Ingalls Wilder's biographical novels of 19th-Century America, clouds play a huge role.

They're almost characters of their own.

She and her family always notice what's going on with the sky.

Wintertime meant constantly checking the north sky for a blizzard cloud.

Throughout the summer, they watched for the revolving dark greenish clouds that spawned tornadoes.

A rain of hail at the wrong time destroyed crops.

Sometimes, a cloud of smoke indicated a wildfire sweeping across the prairie.

Yet the right clouds in the right time bode well for farmers.

Laura's father-in-law, a wealthy farmer of that time, often stated, "Snow is a poor man's fertilizer."

People dependent on agriculture also watch the sky in hope of snow & rain in the right time.

A God-fearing farmer turns to Hashem as he turns to look at the sky.

Part of Am Yisrael's joy during Sukkot derived from their joy over the generous crops brought by an abundance of rain at the right times.

And that's why Hashem created Eretz Yisrael in this way. Page 5:
Eretz Yisroel was a prescription for the benefit of those who were there – it was for the purpose of making them the very best that they could become.

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And it was a very big thing for them because they were reminded of Hashem!

Ahh, the great achievement of life!

And finally when their prayers were answered and rain came down, it was a tremendous simcha of thanksgiving to Hakodosh Boruch Hu.

So why, if Eretz Yisrael's innate nature serves as such a tamper-resistant emunah-booster, do we need Hashem Torah warning to not let our hearts turn astray?

How can our hearts turn astray if we always look to the sky in hope & prayer, then reap & enjoy in thanksgiving to HaKadosh Baruch Hu?
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Okay, now...what does THIS cloud mean?

Big Fat Atheism

Throughout Tanach, we run into the ugly situations of people who ended up a bit too "fat."

"Vayishman Yeshurun vayivat—Yeshurun got fat and kicked" Devarim 32:15.

When people are well-fed, they tend to rebel against Hashem.

Of course, we have God-fearing wealthy people—those religious Jews strive to maintain an awareness of & gratitude toward Hashem.

And it IS a struggle to maintain one's awareness & gratitude when life is so good.

Rav Miller notes that atheism & evolution flourished in one of the most well-fed nations of that time: England.

Page 6:
Atheism flourishes when there’s abundance because a man whose stomach is full doesn't want to have competition in the world.

He becomes arrogant and he wants to be all alone; Hakodosh Boruch Hu is making it too crowded for him.

“There's just not enough room in this universe for me and Him” (Sotah 5a).

Whether you like it or not that’s what you’re thinking – that's the result of being overfed.


That sounds a lot like Kayin, the world's first murderer.

Anyway, Rav Miller emphasizes that it's not about being rich, but well-fed.

He notes what we all see today, that America's poorest people tend to be the fattest.

In fact, when you see a truly obese person in the US, don't you instinctively assume the person must NOT be rich?

If someone would request your automatic impression of the economic standing of a very obese person, wouldn't you instinctively say that person is probably lower-middle class or even on welfare?

But if being well-fed harms us spiritually, then why does Eretz Yisrael yield such an abundance—especially when Am Yisrael behaves as it should?

Why does Eretz Yisrael end up feeding us so richly if a full stomach impinges on our spiritual level?

Don't Let the Kosher-Looking Pig Fool You

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Hashem wants us to be...happy.

That's why He gives us so much.

That's why Eretz Yisrael yields so much.

As Rav Miller emphasizes on page 8:

Now it’s a big chiddush what I’m telling you now.

It’s such a chiddush that most frum Jews will not accept it, but listen anyhow because actually it’s the most important element of avodas Hashem.

More than anything else, the foundation of kol hatorah kulah is hodu l'Hashem ki tov
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Avodas Hashem means to think of what He’s doing for you and to serve him in terms of gratitude.

On pages 8-11, Rav Miller describes what is so bad about serving Hashem in gloom and what's so good about serving Hashem with a song in your heart.

On those same pages, he also trashes the assumption that the non-Jewish cultures surrounding us are so happy.

He gives his own examples, which are best reading in the dvar Torah itself, so here I'll give you mine.

I once endured the misery of temporarily living in one America's wealthiest neighborhoods.

(In case you're wondering...why such misery? Well, our particular apartment was a piece of garbage, plus I missed my frum neighbors & frum environment. And I really hated driving through extremely narrow streets lined with cars on both sides, plus dealing with stressful parking issues, and getting my big pregnant stomach in & out from under the steering wheel all the time. Plus my 2 oldest sons, who rarely fought, would suddenly start trying to kick each other in the face in the backseat davka at the times when I needed full concentration on the driving & also not at a place where I could stop the car.)

Surrounded by young (under 30) white & Asian yuppies living in luxury apartments & driving Mercedes, I noticed that most seemed unhappy.

I saw this at the local grocery store serving this successful populace, on the street, running into neighbors, and so on.

Most of the guys wore sour expressions & an undercurrent of biting resentment lay under their speech.

The sweet young women walked around with eyes full of insecurity & unhappiness, even when they smiled.

A non-Jewish couple lived near us with their 5-year-old daughter, who was the same age as our oldest son.

They were nice and the wife was super-nice, but again, an undercurrent of unhappiness always hovered around the wife. And the husband, even in his jovial moods, always carried his own undercurrent, as if he might lash out at any moment.

Hollywood & a lot of non-fiction best-sellers do everything they can to sell certain ideas to their global audience.

The innate nature of Edom/Esav resembles the pig.

With its split hoof, it looks wholesomely kosher on the outside.

Yet inside, no cud-chewing mechanism exists—it's as treif as a slug.

Unfortunately, most people buy into it.

How to Prevent a Full-Bellied Rebellion

Rav Miller mentions two ways to prevent well-fed rebellion:

  1. Frugality—limit your intake of food & its variety (i.e., eat what you need to live) & live with necessities, not luxuries.
  2. Gratitude—Make sure to say a happy-hearted bracha before eating, give tzedakah to those less fortunate, learn Torah, feel your good fortune, etc.

And what happens to people who don't invest in the above 2 methods (especially method #2—gratitude)?

Rav Miller describes their reality on page 14:
...you’re in trouble; pen yifteh levavchem vesartem – you'll turn away, chas v’shalom.

It doesn’t mean you’ll go to India and join the Hare Krishna chas v’shalom.

It doesn’t mean you’ll become a ‘Jew for Cheeses’.

You’ll still do everything!

You’ll go to the synagogue three times a day and you’ll bentch after every seudah and you’ll keep Shabbos too.

But you'll turn away from Hakodosh Boruch Hu.

Because how much are you thinking about Hashem?!

How much are you thanking Him?

How much are you looking up to the heavens for your daily needs?

And if you’re not thinking about Hashem, that’s already atheism; it’s frum atheism but it’s atheism nonetheless.

Once again, Rav Miller concludes with one of his most popular ideas:

Our purpose in life is gratitude to Hashem.

It's connecting to Hashem, maintaining an awareness of Hashem, and bringing Hashem into the world & into our lives—into ourselves.

May we all succeed in forging a very real & joyful connection with our Creator.
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Credit for material & all quotes goes to Toras Avigdor—thank you!

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How to Learn from King Shaul's Ultimate Mistake

27/7/2021

 
This is a continuation of a previous post: ever-done-something-really-awful-still-beating-yourself-up-over-a-massive-missed-opportunity-take-heart-hope-from-king-asa-of-yehudah-and-learn-what-you-really-should-be-doing-instead.html.

King Shaul's Great Mistake

​In the commentary for Melachim I:15:16-20, the Me'am Lo'ez brings the example of King Shaul to emphasize the ultimate blunder of King Asa.

King Asa's real mistake was not making teshuvah after he flubbed up everything else.

Part of his denial included getting angry at the messenger and persecuting people who were not only innocent, but right.

King Shaul made the same error.

First of all, King Shaul committed a terrible blunder by not destroying ALL of Amalek.

(He left King Agag alive long enough for this Amalekite king to conceive a child, which perpetrated the Amalek line.)

With sources pinpointing Amalek as Germany, we start to fathom the depth of this failure to completely destroy Amalek.

While most focus on Amalek deals with the Nazis, one of the most devious facets of Amalek lies in its ability to chill a person's enthusiasm for Torah & mitzvot.

Decades before Hitler yemach shemo came into the world, the Haskalah & Reform movements developed within German Jewry—classic examples of chilling enthusiasm for Torah & mitzvot.

Also, think of the prime nemesis in Megillat Esther: Haman the Agagi—a direct descendant of Amalek via King Agag.

None of these terrible people would've existed had King Shaul fulfilled Hashem's command in its entirety.

In fact, based on the above, one wonders whether the Haskalah & Reform movements would've developed without a German culture rooted in Amalek.

Food for thought...

Anyway, while King Shaul managed to admit his terrible blunder, he struggled to against the personal outcome: the loss of the royal line for his descendants.

What Could Have Been

​As the Me'am Lo'ez (Rabbi Nathan Bushwick's English translation of Melachim I, published by Moznaim, page 365) states:
Had he accepted God's decree, he could have completed his reign, to be succeeded by his faithful son-in-law, David. 

But because King Shaul rebelled against the Divine consequence for his blunder, he not only forfeited the completion of his reign, but he stooped to committing severe sins, including the mass slaughter of the Kohanim of Nov.

​The Me'am Lo'ez further notes:
By rejecting God's decree, he brought unnecessary sorrow upon himself, his family, and the Jewish people.

So despite the terrible (albeit well-intentioned) failure on his part, things did not have to go as badly for King Shaul as they did.

He could have completed his reign. As the powerful king, King Shaul could have done wonderful things for Am Yisrael.

Instead, he reigned for only 2 years, then died a tragic death.

Just like King Asa later, King Shaul could not move forward.

His despair & shame warped into anger at others, which he expelled onto innocent people.

A Modern Tale of Making Things Worse for Oneself

In a modern-day repeat of this, my husband knew a successful business man who suffered terrible guilt over his brother's death.

What happened?

​At an Israeli beach, his brother spied a young damsel and went to talk to her.

Little did they know she was the daughter of a big mafia guy.

Her bodyguards stopped the guy, who objected.

Not sure when the fighting turned physical, but at some point, the other brother (the successful businessman) jumped into the fray (before or just as it became physical), and this called for revenge as far as the mafia bigwig was concerned.

One night, the brother was out driving when another car showed up behind him and proceeded to tail him.

No matter which way he turned, the car followed him.

He understood it was the mafia, so he refused to go home for fear of endangering his family.

As the hours went by, his fear increased and his fuel tank decreased.

Finally, panicked & exhausted, his car crashed into a wall, killing him.

(He contacted his successful business brother during the drive, which is how the successful brother knew what happened.)

Despite the certainty of this being a passive-aggressive mafia hit, lack of proof made any action impossible.

Plagued by guilt, the successful business man see-sawed between depression & rage, and also started to drink.

His reckless emotional state affected his business, and he lost that too.

At one point, he ended up in jail temporarily.

While his decision to alongside his brother (rather than calming his brother and pulling him away from the scene) was clearly a foolish & dangerous decision, why did his family need to suffer?

Why did he need to turn to alcohol and lose his entire livelihood?

Things were bad—true.

But things did not need to get SO bad—that's also true.

His brother's life was already destroyed—that parsha is over.

But for a while, he needlessly destroyed his own life (and that of his wife & children) in response.

​Note: Other lessons can also be gleaned from the episode, like how even the barest minimum of shemirat aynayim could've prevented the whole disaster.

Why go to a mixed beach? (Yes, I realize they aren't frum. Guess what? Halacha applies to everyone whether they know it or not. Spiritual physics continue whether you believe in them or not.)

And once at a mixed beach, why start up with a damsel?

And if the damsel's bodyguards get in the way, why fight them?

That's pretty animalistic, if you think about it.

A couple of guys tell you to leave the damsel alone and you fight for them for the right to your taavah?

Isn't that what rutting baboons & elephants in musth do?

Not exactly one of Tzelem Elokim's nobler moments.

What are the Messages for Us?

Fortunately, the successful businessman had a devoted, compassionate wife who helped him out of his despair via Torah and other methods.

He got back on his feet again, proving that Hashem not only gives second chances, but third, fourth, and fifth chances too.

​​Intriguingly, both King Shaul & King Asa seemed born for greatness.

Via inborn nature & upbringing & lineage, both possessed the sterling external & internal qualities to make the ideal king.

And both got off to blazing start.

And while both are remembered for the good they did, neither ended on the note which they started.

In contrast, David Hamelech had nearly ever strike against him—and look who became the eternal royal line for Mashiach.

Look who produced the everlasting Book of Tehillim.

David Hamelech also blundered.

He encountered his failures.

But he never despaired. 

Did he eat himself up, beat himself up, or drown in the kind of toxic shame that leads to the abuse of others?

​No.

He always picked himself back up again & kept moving forward.

​As the Me'am Lo'ez states on page 365:
Though by his earlier mistakes, a person may have lost a truly great potential, there is much left for him.

God still loves him and has not abandoned him.

If he trusts God and remains faithful, he can yet enjoy great blessing.


The short version of King Shaul's story:
https://www.aish.com/jl/h/cc/48936347.html

The long version (start with this link, then keep follow the links at the bottom right):
https://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/463971/jewish/Saul-First-King-of-Israel.htm

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Baruch Dayan HaEmet: Estelle Bat Leah Linda

27/7/2021

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Finally, Estelle bat Leah Linda is accounted for in the Surfside building collapse.

Baruch Dayan HaEmet.

I'm not sure of the right words just now.

It has been a very difficult, draining & traumatic process for all involved.

I'm viewing it from far away and it affected me so strongly. I can't even imagine what it must be like for those directly involved.

Yet at the same time, the Surfside tragedy also brought about a lot of unity, tefillot, good deeds, and kiddush Hashem.

All that belongs as a zechut to the victims in this disturbing event.

​May we only hear besurot tovot from now on.
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Ever Done Something Really Awful? Still Beating Yourself Up over a Massive Missed Opportunity? Take Heart & Hope from King Asa of Yehudah (and learn what you really should be doing instead)

26/7/2021

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Many posts on this blog already discuss the importance of breaking out of the shackles of toxic shame.

But toxic shame plagues so many people for so long—largely because we live in a society devoid of Torah values.

​We need to break through this.

Constant repetition of the Torah view helps free us from the harmful effects of toxic shame.

Only the Torah system believes in the innate loftiness of the human soul and the very real possibility of picking yourself up to go on, no matter how awful you've been.

Only the Torah system acknowledges the superhuman ability of Hashem to forgive a person who is truly sorry and truly seeks to turn over a new leaf.

So with that in mind, let's look at what we learn from the Me'am Lo'ez interpretation of Melachim/Kings I:15:16-20.
www.chabad.org/library/bible_cdo/aid/15899/showrashi/true#v16

King Asa Gets Off to an Amazing Start

King Asa, the king of Yehudah & a great-great-grandson of David Hamelech (via Shlomo Hamelech), proved himself a pious king by undoing much of the damage inflicted by his father Aviyah & his grandfather Rechavam (Rechovoam).

During his 41-year reign, King Asa accomplished massive feats in the restoration of Torah-true Judaism in his kingdom.

Early in his reign, the mighty king of Kush attacked the kingdom of Yehudah with the intent to plunder its treasures.

It looked like an easy win because the Kush army vastly outnumber the Yehudi army.

Yet King Asa turned to Hashem, Who made the army of Yehudah victorious against the might Kush.

Part of the miraculous victory included King Asa's pursuit of the fleeing enemy & his success in recovering the treasures & other loot stolen from the royal palace and the Beit Hamikdash by Shishak of Egypt.

This unbelievable victory woke up many in Am Yisrael, who saw Hashem's Hand with obvious clarity in the entire process. Pious & good-hearted members of the other 10 Tribes of Yisrael headed toward Yehudah to live under rule of this king whom Hashem clearly supported.

Other nations of that time also viewed Yehudah with newfound respect.

Yet King Asa soon faced a new nemesis: King Baasha, the king of Yisrael.

King Asa: The King of Missed Opportunities

Alarmed by King Baasha's intimidation and King Baasha's alliance with the king of Syria, King Asa made an odd about-face.

Instead of relying on his trust-worthy Neviim/Prophets as before, King Asa turned to his regular counselors, who recommended playing politics with the king of Syria.

King Asa did so, rather than trusting in Hashem and tefillah.

King Asa won that particular battle against King Baasha, but that was not good enough.

Chanani the Seer came to King Asa and told him that had King Asa placed his trust in Hashem (rather than relying on the king of Syria) and fought King Baasha all by himself, Hashem would've granted King Asa full victory and the entire Am Yisrael would've been united again under one king—King Asa!

In other words, had King Asa listened to the Neviim and relied solely on Hashem for victory, he would have succeeded in:
  • becoming king of the entire Am Yisrael
  • re-uniting the split Nation into one powerful kingdom, similar to the kingdom of Shlomo Hamelech.
  • fighting & overcoming Syria too (rather than bribing them, as he ended up doing)

Think of the positive ramifications that would echo into our times.

The entire Jewish history from that point would have been different.
​
What a massive blunder!

King Asa's Real Mistake & the Message for Us

Not surprisingly, King Asa did not enjoy hearing about this missed opportunity.

​As a messenger of Hashem, Chanani only meant to inspire King Asa to do teshuvah.

Instead, the message angered King Asa & he rebelled against it.

Even though Chanani acted only as Hashem's helpful messenger, King Asa persecuted Chanani.

When people sided with Chanani, King Asa persecuted them too.

​For the rest of King Asa's reign, he suffered harassment & fighting from King Baasha.

Yet had he done teshuvah in response to Chanani's well-intended words, everything could have been different.

That was his worst mistake & ultimate missed opportunity: not doing teshuvah.

Despair overwhelmed King Asa, and that despair warped into anger—anger at an innocent victim.

​(This is exactly what toxic shame does too.)

In contrast, Chazal praises the awful King Rechavam (King Asa's grandfather) for listening to the Navi Shemayah.

When Rechavam lost the 10 Tribes & Shemayah HaNavi warned him not to regain them by force, King Rechavam listened.

For all those years he obeyed Hashem's message from Shemayah HaNavi, King Rechavam's kingdom enjoyed peace & prosperity.

So too King Asa's acceptance of Chanani's Divine message and a response of teshuvah could have turned things around for him, despite the massive lost opportunity.

As the Me'am Lo'ez states (Rabbi Nathan Bushwick's English translation of Melachim I, published by Moznaim, page 365):
How terrible it is when people make this mistake, but how pitifully common!

Though by his earlier mistakes, a person may have lost a truly great potential, there is much left for him.

God still loves him and has not abandoned him.

If he trusts God and remains faithful, he can yet enjoy great blessing.


How King Asa & King Rechavam Mean Hope for Us

Probably, you have not made any blunder as big as King Asa's.

Like, the 10 Tribes do not remain lost because of anything you did or didn't do.

You never possessed the potential to bring Am Yisrael in Eretz Yisrael back to Solomonic peace, piety, power, and prosperity—and the non-existence of a kingdom similar to Shlomo Hamelech's has nothing to do with you personally.

Our current lack of reign over Syria is in no way any fault of yours.

Furthermore, you are probably nowhere near as faulty as King Rechavam, who split the kingdom, allowed the introduction of idol worship, and a whole slew of harmful stuff—yet simply by obeying Hashem word in ONE area (remember, he still had all that idol-worshipping occult stuff going on), he merited peace & prosperity for as long as his renewed obedience to God (in that ONE area) remained.

Have you caused a generations-long split in Am Yisrael or introduced widespread occult worship?

See? You're not so bad!

Your mistakes, failures, and blunders aren't so bad!

So if there was a chance for them, there's definitely a chance for you.

It's a tremendous kal v'chomer.

As the Me'am Lo'ez states, Hashem still loves you and has NOT abandoned you!

The lives of King Asa & King Rechavam show us that no matter how badly you've messed up, THERE IS STILL HOPE.

Pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and keep moving FORWARD.

"Trust Hashem, remain faithful to Hashem...

...and you can still enjoy great blessing."
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Follow-up post:
How to Learn from King Shaul's Ultimate Mistake
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Free Funny Image to Start Off Your Week with a Smile

25/7/2021

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"I need money to fix my time machine & go back to the Fifties."


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Tu B'Av – How Dancing Reflects Your Personality

23/7/2021

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​Note: This old post needed to be completely redone as a new post (and thus lost its comment) because the formatting went wonky and the paragraphs & subheadings refused to stay in the places I put them.

The stories have been updated with additional details added for clarity.

When I first heard that Jews originally used Tu B’Av as a time to pick a wife based on her dancing, I just couldn’t understand how that could be.

But as time went on, I noticed that the personality of the dancer truly can be reflected in the dancing.

Not how skillfully they dance — that doesn't matter — but the actual personality that comes through.

Dancing at Weddings

​At a wedding long ago, one of the guests was this adorable young woman sweetly dressed in a pink velvet top and a wide pink satin skirt that reached her ankles.

She was petite with a strawberry blonde shaitel full of little curls down to her shoulders. She looked like the perfect doll come to life.
 
Imagine my shock when we started circle-dancing and she grabbed my hand, immediately yanking on my arm with a force that belied her delicate little stature.

I immediately pulled away — but she actually hung on!

Then she let me go and as I stepped away from the dancing, the next woman joined hands unsuspectingly with the The Doll, only to immediately be yanked so hard she almost fell over. She looked at The Doll with the same shock I probably had on my face, and also stepped away, rubbing her shoulder.

The pattern repeated itself and someone even said, “Ow! Stop — that hurts!”

The Doll responded by pursing her lips and furrowing her pert little nose.

Wimp! she clearly seemed to be thinking.

It ended with several of us standing there and staring at her in disbelief.

“C’mon! C’mon!” she barked, bouncing on her feet like a boxer up for the next round. “Let’s dance! C’mon!” Her lips rubbed against each other and her eyes lit up like the eyes of those who go to hockey games to see the blood bounce off the ice.

​Her little fists pounded her satin skirt as she looked at us. “Come on! What’s wrong with you guys? This is a wedding! Let’s dance!”

At that point, we drifted as one away to other circles of dancers.

As I looked back, her face was all pinched and glaring in a way that clearly said, Can’t take the heat, eh? What a bunch of wimps!

I wondered who'd had the guts to marry her.

​A girl name Miriam loved to attend weddings because she loved to dance for the kallah – something she did with infectious joy and energy.

When other girls complimented her dancing (which wasn't particularly skilled or graceful, but exuded a joyful energy & somehow projected her gladness on bride's behalf), she always answered, “Thanks! B’ezras Hashem, I’ll dance at your wedding, too — may it be soon!”
 
When I mentioned to a mutual friend how much I admired Miriam’s dancing, the friend said, “Sure! And you should have seen how she used to rip up the clubs with her dancing!”
 
“Really?” I said (neither of us realizing at the time that now we were entering the realm of lashon hara).
 
“Sure! She used to go clubbing all the time and dance for hours! She was also really into rap music.”
 
“But that’s so weird,” I said. “Because her dancing is totally tzanuah. She doesn’t throw in any of those provocative moves. She just seems totally happy for the kallah.”
 
“Yes,” said the friend. “Because she’s done true teshuvah. She’s a real example to follow.”

​A distant cousin of my husband’s whom I’d never met before danced at our wedding non-stop with a serious sense of purpose & dedication.

She never engaged in any fancy steps. She simply carried out the standard going-around-in-a-circle-while-holding-hands, yet she clearly seemed committed to the importance of dancing at a wedding.

When I thanked her later and told her how much it meant to me, she looked surprised and said, “Of course! It’s a big mitzvah to dance at a wedding.”
 
I found out later she was known to be a conscientious, serious, trustworthy type.

And that's exactly what what her dancing showed.

Another time, I watched as two newly married women danced for a kallah.

One looked unsmiling off to the side, her movements half-hearted and robotic; she seemed not to want to be there and didn't care who knew it — including the kallah.

In contrast, her partner gazed warmly into the eyes of the kallah with a quiet smile, her steps gentle and light.
 
Socializing with them later revealed that the first was very unhappy. (Understandably, she was feeling very lonely as a newlywed far away from her family and old friends.)

And the second was warm, kind, and engaging (and trying very hard to help the first newlywed not feel so lonely).

​So this may not have reflected the first newlywed's true personality, but merely the state she was experiencing at that time.

Dancing at an Old Age Home

And outside of weddings, a dancer’s personality also peeps out.

At an old age home, I watched as one young woman pranced lightly among the residents, singing softly and pleasantly while clapping her hands gently.

I didn't realize at the time she was divorced (her shaitel was very realistic) and the light that shone from her soul belied the traumatic year she spent in an emotionally abusive marriage.

​(As I got to know her, I discovered an exceptionally special young woman who remarried a really wonderful and sweet bachur not long after.)
 
The old folks mostly slouched in their chairs, staring at nothing, with only a few blessed with enough good health to clap and sway in rhythm.

The young woman’s face glowed with gentle joy and caring.

Another dancing girl kept stared blankly off to the side as she clapped her hands and bounced around, singing by rote. Then she grabbed the hands of an elderly woman hunched almost face down over a desk and started swinging the woman’s stiff arms back and forth.

The elderly lady made a choking sound, then started emitting warbles of pain: “Ahhhahh — ahhahh — aaaaagh!”
 
But the girl didn't stop.
 
Shocked, I placed my hand on the girl’s arm and whispered, “Wait, I don’t think this lady likes that much.”
 
Startled, the girl’s eyes widened as her head jerked around to look at me.

​Then she gave me a disgruntled frown and shook me off, moving away while looking at me as if I had done something indecent.

​I was certain it was just a defensive reaction; after all, she must have been embarrassed to be shown how she was accidentally hurting this arthritic old lady.

I thought that was the end of it until I saw her back with the same woman, the elderly lady’s stiff body rocking back and forth helplessly as the same girl swung the lady’s arms from side to side, accompanied by the elderly lady’s painful warbles.
 
Without thinking, I rushed over to the girl and said, “Stop! Can’t you see you’re hurting her?!”
 
The girl looked at me in startled disgust, raised her chin, and gave a disdainful sniff as she danced as far away from me as possible.
 
She seemed so sure of herself, I started wondering whether I’d misinterpreted the elderly lady’s sounds. Perhaps the elderly lady was trying to sing along and I mistakenly thought she was in unbearable agony?
 
I leaned over to see if the lady was okay.

She lay with her stiff arms stretched out across her desk, breathing hard, and still gasping and groaning a little. Her eyes were wide and frantic-looking.

​Biting my lip, I asked her if she was okay. She stared at me a moment as if to say, Do you really need to ask
? and rolled her eyes.

Interestingly, the girl's actual dancing was fine.

​Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't have noticed her dancing one way or the other.

​But when she danced with a fragile person, her insensitivity come to the fore.

So it's really not about one's dancing skill or lack thereof, but simply that something in the personality comes forth.

 
Oddly, that same girl appeared very different in class.

Throughout every class, she sat staring off into space, leaning to the side in a way that made me wonder if she was drugged.

If directly addressed, she looked startled, straightened up for the time it took her to answer, then immediately flopped over and went back to staring at nothing.

She seemed quiet and unhappy, and my initial impression of her was of a nice girl for whom I felt sorry.

​But her dancing persona (i.e., someone who didn't care about causing pain to elderly people) gave me a totally different insight.
 
(Although to be fair, popular medications like Prozac sometimes cause its user to become insensitive and even obnoxious to others. Even Tylenol studies recently proved that acetaminophen lowers a person's  empathy. So perhaps the disdainful dancer I saw was not the real her, but merely how she was on medication. Maybe.)

Choosing Your Dancer

The explanation behind Tu B’Av opened my eyes to the fact that you certainly can see a lot in a person’s dancing.

​There are basic middot, like:
  • a need to dominate
  • a sense of purpose
  • insensitivity
  • someone who just goes through the motions.

​And then there are personality types — all good, but still different:
  • lively and bursting with simchat chaim
  • or gentle & sweet
  • serious & committed
 
And that’s just to name a few.

As far dancing persona & shidduchim, it could go like this: 
​
  • A boy looking for an energetic girl who embraces a life of mitzvot with gusto might choose a girl like Miriam.
 
  • A boy who prefers a girl who’s gentle and sensitive might choose the second baton-dancer or the young divorcee.
 
  • Yet another boy who’s looking for girl who marches through life with heartfelt seriousness and a strong sense of purpose might choose my husband’s distant cousin.

(And in case you were wondering, The Doll and the girl at the old age home were just 2 out of only 3 times I ever saw such aggressive behavior while dancing. Phew!)
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Link to Annual Tu B'Av Dancing Post, Plus a Striking Photo of Poppy Flowers in Eretz Yisrael

23/7/2021

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As usual, here is the link to the yearly Tu B'Av post:
Tu B'Av – How Dancing Reflects Your Personality
​
www.myrtlerising.com/blog/tu-bav-how-dancing-reflects-the-true-you7739302

I usually tweak the post every year, so it's not exactly the same as you read last year, but pretty much is.

Tu B'Av (the 15th of Av) falls on Shabbat this year.

Here are links to 2 articles by Rav Itamar Schwartz, describing the deeper meanings & symbolism of Tu B'Av & its historical events:

  • Tu B'Av: Light of the Future
  • Depth of the Festival of Tu B'Av

(If you receive this on Shabbat, that's because FeedBurner's email service—which lives on despite all predictions & promises of its demise!—has a mind of its own. And it's an automated process over which I've no control. That's why sometimes you receive 3 posts in one email even though I did not publish 3 posts in one day. Anyway, I wrote this particular email Erev Shabbat noon, long before the beginning of Shabbat.)
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POPPY FIELD IN ERETZ YISRAEL (Image by gilboim )
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Update on Surfside Resident Estelle Hedaya (ESTELLE BAT LEAH LINDA)—Unfortunately, Still Unaccounted For

22/7/2021

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Many of you have been davening for Estelle Hedaya, a resident of the collapsed Surfside building in Miami.

All your efforts are so very much appreciated.

First of all, there is an update regarding her name for davening:

We should be davening for ESTELLE BAT LEAH LINDA.

(And not Esther bat Leah, as stated in an earlier post. Nonetheless, Hashem knows who we meant.)

​Tragically, Estelle Hedaya is the only person from the Surfside collapse still unaccounted for.

Please daven for her and her family, for a yeshua and siyata d'Shmaya (Heavenly Assistance).

It's hard to imagine how draining & agonizing this experience has been for everyone involved.

May we please merit only besurot tovot from now on.
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Rav Avigdor Miller on Parshat Va'Etchanan: Real Love & How to Achieve It

22/7/2021

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In his dvar Torah for Parshas Vaeschanan 4 – With All Your Mind, Rav Miller focuses on the Ve'ahavta prayer we say 3 times a day: "And you shall love Hashem with all your heart..."

​He encourages us to aspire to truly love Hashem, even if we feel far from that ideal.

​He encourages us to be real.

​Pages 5-6:
If a person is a cold philosopher, a stoic who is capable of uttering grand banalities, noble statements that are remote from his own emotions, the Torah language doesn’t care for such people.

Only a man who lives his ideals is respected.

​That’s why all the great men of our past were revered only for personifying their ideals.

I think this proves particularly challenging in our times, with video & sound techniques, plus Photoshop & cosmetics—all of which serve to make a person look appealing & credible.

Furthermore, so many courses & books exist to train people to speak & behave in a more appealing manner.

Body language experts offer tips on how to utilize body language & facial expressions most effectively.

Some people write in a convincing manner. A column appearing in a newspaper or blog grants the writer a credibility they may lack in reality.

Degrees (whether religious or secular) also confer a certain credibility, whether the degree-holder deserves it or not.

Sometimes, a person who comes off as extremely appealing actually covers up a contemptuous persona.

Probably, we've all been fooled by people like this.

I don't mean people who are going through a hard time or responding in a less-than-ideal manner to stressful moment.

I mean people who consistently put on an act—people who consistently feel contemptuous of others, but cover it up by tons of appeal.

It's some comfort to know that even if these people enjoy widespread popularity & support, Hashem is actually thinking, "Ugh. Definitely NOT my type!" 

Love of Hashem Means Loyalty to Hashem

On page 6, Rav Miller emphasizes that love of Hashem means loyalty to Hashem.

In other words, you need make your Judaism an integral part of every bit of you:
You have to have everything Jewish, even Jewish eyes.

You look only at kosher things.

You have to have a Jewish stomach and a Jewish mouth.

No question about it. You cannot talk about things that a Jewish mouth doesn’t say.

A Jew can't say dirty words.

​Nivul peh, bad language, is a very big sin among Jews.

But of all the things you must have, more than a Jewish mouth and Jewish hands and Jewish feet, you must have also a yiddishe kop.

That's what makes a Jew – a Jewish head – a head filled with good thoughts.

The above represents "Turn from evil & do good" in a nutshell.

Avoid the non-Jewish stuff & embrace the Jewish stuff.

A lot of people don't realize how bad Judaism considers foul language (nivul peh).

In recent years, Israelis adopted the foulest English words as slang (with even frum youth unwittingly repeating these words—especially those who privately watch American movies on cell phones).

And because foul language now appears everywhere—professional blogs, popular NON-fiction books, podcasts, and much more, its commonality falsely lends it acceptability.

So many Jews pereceive nivul peh as a cultural & generational issue, rather than a serious prohibition of its own.

Now Rav Miller delves into HOW to start loving Hashem.

Love God-Based Love Leads to Real Love

Loving another isn't so simply in our times.

For decades (at least since the 1970s), the surrounding Western culture harps on the need to love yourself.

Of course, when the upswing in narcissism & other personality disorders (among other behaviors) made them realize self-love wasn't all it's cracked up to be, they started with self-compassion.

That was better, but all this emphasis on "self" hasn't helped.

For all the psychologists, self-help, self-awareness, and drive for self-esteem, we find ourselves in a world growing progressively narcissistic.

The love, compassion, and esteem you feel for yourself should derive from an appreciation of Hashem and the human soul He gave you, in addition to the Tzelem Elokim (Divine Image) He imbued in you.

​As the Pele Yoetz presents in the chapter titled Love of Self, your self-love should drive you to behave MORE responsibly & with HIGHER integrity, not less.
https://learntorah.com/PeleYoetz/Pdf/English3.pdf

I have a Tzelem Elokim—yay me!

You have a Tzelem Elokim—yay you!

Every human being on earth (even the most physically deformed & mentally deficient) possesses a Tzelem Elokim—yay them!

A Tzelem Elokim is unique among all Creation.

Among all the plants, marine life, wildlife, fowl, insects, planets, comets, starts, and the most beautiful rainbow, not one other creation in the entire universe possesses a Tzelem Elokim—only a human being.

Yay us!

What is the Yetzer Tov? And How Do We Access It?

Furthermore, many relationships are fragmented.

Wars, immigration, upheavals, economic hardships, lifestyle changes, and cultural mores created frazzled & distracted parents.

It also created absent parents (both figuratively & literally).

Many people do not know how love feels.

​So Rav Miller explains how to start on the journey of loving Hashem.

​First, he says, start off with the yetzer tov.

He describes the yetzer tov (page 8):
And the answer is that the yetzer tov is a mysterious quality which we possess within ourselves.

It's the quality of wisdom, a great native wisdom that comes from within.

In English it's called conscience, but I don't want to make it small by using that word because when you attach that word to it, immediately it means nothing.

But in the ancient times conscience had a great meaning; it derives from the Latin word con science, ‘with knowledge’ – it means a native wisdom that derives from the human mind.

That’s the Yetzer Hatov!


Unlike any other creation, Hashem breathed into Man.

Meaning, He expelled something of Himself via His "Breath" into Man.

No other creation merited life this way.

Just us.

Quoting Mishlei, Rav Miller states that every single human being is "is a wellspring, a deep fountain of wisdom."

He explains further (page 9):
Only that we have to bring it forth.

You have to lower a bucket into your mind and draw forth that wisdom of the yetzer tov, that perfection of achieving ahavas Hashem, that is concealed deep within.

How do you lower a bucket and bring forth this depth of greatness that is inside of you?

By means of thinking.

Thinking!

To love Hashem with the yetzer tov means to summon your abilities and draw forth from the depths of your natural wisdom all the thoughts that will help you love Hashem.

Not surprisingly, the best way to think and access this innate God-given wellspring of wisdom is through...gratitude.

From pages 9-12, Rav Miller describes in compelling, witty detail all the ways we can get in touch with our gratitude & appreciation for all Hashem does for us.

A Simple Program of How to Use Your Yetzer Hara to Love Hashem

Intriguingly, we can also use the yetzer hara to love Hashem.

How?

For example, people tend to indulge in behaviors that make them feel good, but of which Hashem disapproves.

One really common yetzer hara results in the desire to cut down another person—even without any provocation from the other person.

Many people do not feel good cutting down an innocent person, but some people feel really good doing this.

(Or they invent a reason to justify themselves.)

However, if they realize that—no matter how cute, funny, clever, and superior they appear in their own misguided mind (and possibly in the eyes of their society or Twitter followers)—Hashem really hates that behavior...and then they can decide to change.

They decide to change for HASHEM.

They develop an interest in HIS approval, and not the jollies of their yetzer hara or their snarky peers.

This motivation is very powerful.

Rav Miller gives examples of both wives & husbands who indulge in this, with a simple program of change (starting with baby steps).

Here's part of the example of such a wife on pages 12-13 (boldface mine):
Let’s say she knows that when her husband comes back from work and she is tired and exasperated from being with the children all day long, that’s when she sometimes lets go with a barb at him.

So she makes a plan; “When my husband comes home today, I’m going to show my love to Hashem by controlling my yetzer hora; I’m going all out for Hashem!”

***

As she hears him unlocking the front door, she steels herself and says, “I am making a shvuah that for the next fifteen minutes, I won’t say anything unkind.”

She should swear! Fifteen minutes you can risk.

And for those fifteen minutes, she’s all sugar and spice and everything nice.

It’s a quarter of an hour of loving Hashem!

Don’t disdain that – it’s a tremendous achievement!


Here's part of the example with a husband (page 13):
The evil inclination of anger and arrogance and dissatisfaction is going to be his ladder to climb the rungs of ahavas Hashem.

“Out of love for You Hashem, I’m going to do one of the hardest things that a man can do in this world – I’m going to break my bad middos.”

So as he is fumbling with the doorknob, let him stop for a moment and say,

“I take upon myself in the next half hour just to keep quiet. No matter what my wife will say, I am not going to say anything mean. If I can’t say anything kindly, I will keep my mouth shut.”

For a half hour.

Of course after the half hour he will let go!

But that’s a good beginning because for a half hour he loved Hashem with his yetzer hora.

After that, maybe next week, he might increase it to an hour; he might add on the mornings too.

It’s a good idea by the way, to love Hashem in the morning too.


And in a nutshell, that's how you use your yetzer hara to love Hashem.

By striving to overcoming your negative aspects, you show Hashem you love Him more than you love your yetzer hara.

And that's a MASSIVE accomplishment.

In this way, promises Rav Miller, you will actually develop into a better person.

You'll be happier too.

If you speak to people who actually do this, they'll tell you they feel better & happier than when they used to indulge their yetzer hara.

Not tzaddikim, but regular people—works in progress—will tell you this.

How to Use Our Most Common Bad Middot for the Good

Here's another way of using your yetzer hara to love Hashem:

Use your bad middot for good deeds.

Rav Miller offers examples of kavod, contrariness, and hatred.

These are considered very bad middot. If you read mussar books, they detail what is so bad about these middot.

However, most people struggle with them to some degree—especially kavod (the desire for honor).

So you can flip it around and use it for good.

KAVOD

Rav Miller notes that many devoted Torah-learners do so out of kavod (at least partly).

It's not such a bad thing (though taken to an extreme, it is).

I've known people who behave with greater warmth, hospitality, and chessed with kavod as a big part of their drive—but they are effective & pleasant to be around.

(We're not talking about the abusive hypocrites who act nice to your face, then ravage you behind your back.)

I've seen people take great pride in not speaking or hearing lashon hara.

Some take pride in dressing tsniusly (with modesty & dignity).

Some people take great pride in avoid arguments or dissension. They beam as they uphold the middah of shtikah (silence).

This kind of kavod developed a bad name because when people uphold halacha out of kavod, most of us find them very annoying.

("Holier than thou" comes to mind...)

Also, the modern American value of honesty denigrates the above ("They're not REALLY as good as they seem—they're doing it for the wrong reasons, so they're FAKE!") & completely nullifies even the best deed ONLY because the MOTIVATION wasn't perfect.

People are never perfect.

If you dig, you'll always find a less-than-saintly motive (unless it's someone on the level of the Baba Sali or Rav Aryeh Levine).

Note: We're not talking about the people who use kavod to hurt & abuse others, or to carry out activities lacking in all ethics.

Kavod—a certain amount of pride, people-pleasing, approval-seeking, the need to feel significant or good—is common trait within every person.

The mussar greats stated that humility is one of the hardest middot to achieve—meaning that kavod is one of the hardest to uproot.

So if you have it anyway (even as you struggle to rid yourself of it), then why not use it for good?

CONTRARINESS

Contrariness, a middah which has been destroying society, can also be used for the Torah path.

So while the rest of society is rebelling against good things & dragging the world down with it, you can rebel against the bad things.

For example, you can say, "I'm NOT going to watch non-Jewish movies!"

"I'm NOT going to shake hands with the opposite gender!" (Hopefully, you're polite about this.)

"I'm NOT going to ascribe everything to chance!"

And that's using contrariness for the good.

HATE

Hate is harmful when directed toward some types of people, but good when directed at others.

Today, Rav Miller notes, "hate" is a dirty word.

No matter how awful someone is, you're only supposed to feel "soooorrry" for them.

That leads a person to insist on indiscriminately rehabilitating people, including those psychopaths who enjoy the pain & destruction of others.

But Rav Miller assures us that we can feel free to use our tendency for hate to hate things like atheism, immorality, and murder.

Why?

Because Hashem hates those things.

May we all merit to truly love Hashem.

Credit for all quotes & material goes to Toras Avigdor.

Don't forget to check out the practical tip on page 17!


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