Their way of seeing the world is itself warped and distorted. And they genuinely have no idea.
For example, the level of violence and victimization acceptable within their families can stun you when you first encounter it.
In one instance, an older preteen sister bloodied her younger sister’s nose while having a minor spat in the back seat of their parents' Jaguar—and showing no remorse even years later, insisting that her younger sister deserved it. And maybe she did. But the older sister expressed no awareness that maybe it was bad for her to respond that way.
Now, I grew up with people who were poor and somewhat violent. But even so, people did not treat their siblings like this.
In another family, the older brother bullied his little sister so relentlessly from the time they were young (including when he was already a teen athlete and physically much stronger and larger than she) that the only way she could stop him was to kick him in the nose, bloodying it and nearly breaking it, making him wary of messing with her again.
Again, this level of physical violence between teenage siblings is not the norm. Yet these are teenagers brought up in wealthy families who attended exclusive schools and are supposedly too cool to behave this way.
And yes, isn’t it interesting that although girls are less likely to act out violently and despite the cultural norms discouraging boy-on-girl bullying, these families are so dysfunctional, they create people who defy even these very basic norms.
Each time the daughter asserted her innocence, the mother slapped her across the face again, then calmly repeated: “I said, where did you put the fifty dollars?”
This went on and on until the mother finally saw that she wasn’t getting the result she wanted. A couple of days later, the mother approached her daughter and said, “I found the fifty dollars. I forgot I’d put it in a different place. I’m sorry.” And then she turned around and left.
Needless to say, with that last example, does fifty—or even a thousand dollars—matter when you have millions? Certainly, the mother would defend her actions by claiming that it is the principle about which she was so uncompromising (and so she's not really abusive—in her own mind). But she was so wrong both in principle and everything else. And can you imagine standing nose to nose with the pain on your child’s face and slapping her again and again?
Yet society considers this multimillionairess to be a successful and savvy woman.
Whether they are elegantly assertive or overtly aggressive (like Donald Trump), they usually know how to stay in charge.
Yet why are their children so often so out of control? What leaks into the media is only a drop from behind a whole dam. The physical abuse of siblings or girlfriends, promiscuity, drug use, reckless behavior is disturbingly common.
Their children maintain a certain amount of discretion and you may never actually see them abusive, drunk, or high. When they talk about their escapades, they tend to do so in a light-hearted manner, which makes things sound like they aren’t so bad.
For example, one told me about a “party” celebrated in a luxury chateau. Basically, they all lay around on the plush carpet and kept injecting themselves with heroin over the next couple of weeks. Too blitzed to keep up basic standards of—well--anything, she laughed as she told me about how the purebred Maltese and the exotic parrots they let free soiled the plush carpeting, with no one to clean up. (I guess they didn’t want any witnesses, so housekeeping was only ordered later.) She told this over as if this was an innocently humorous anecdote. But when we just stared at her in reply, her laughter grew nervous and she bit her lip. Finally, I said something like, “But, Tiffany, didn’t it bother you to wake up on the floor with your face a couple of feet a way from a pile of…?”
Everyone else nodded.
She laughed again, but this time like she wanted time to find the best evasive answer and said, “Well, it wasn’t exactly like that…” Then she teased, “Well, I guess you wouldn’t understand…it’s hard to explain…” (Meaning, it is hard to explain to someone who obviously could never afford to live in a chateau and buy that much heroin—not to mention the purebred dog and the expensive birds—and therefore, cannot understand.) Or they might fix you with a hard stare, like how dare you judge them. Or they just turn away with a dismissive wave of their hand.
I think you’ll agree that even messy or lazy people would never agree to lay around on a carpet for days surrounded by parrot droppings and dog doo.
Just wealthy elites do things like that.
Now, this post used the example of a drug-fueled party, but the above reactions will be their standard responses to even the most innocent questioning of any of their experiences, no matter how bizarre, immoral, or illegal.
Not surprisingly, all these people tend to have very liberal views. Even if they support Republican or conservative candidates for economic reasons, they are socially very liberal and look to impose their views on society.
Likely you’ve met people with a high level of academic intelligence or who are extremely successful in one area of their life (like computers or entertainment or medicine, etc.), yet talking to them reveals a mind that cannot think rationally outside of their narrow strip of expertise. They say things that make no sense and when you appear confused, they assume it’s because they are too lofty to be understood by a mere peon like you. This is unsettling because what they said was so obviously nonsensical, yet they appear so satisfied with themselves and so sure that the fault is in you, that unless you are strong in your own mind, it can cause you to second-guess yourself.
She pointed to herself.
“Here. You going to point the camera at yourself."
That way, you show everyone how you are totally fine and can portray your beliefs sympathetically (no matter how unethical or harmful those beliefs actually are).
Since its inception, Hollywood actors and directors have been committing adultery, conceiving extramarital pregnancies, and engaging in serial divorce.
But American society frowned on this.
So Hollywood increasingly turned the camera on its darkest parts to brainwash people into thinking that this was a perfectly normal way of behaving.
Finally (and the most disturbing), when I was in high school, a friend confided that she’d been abused as part of a cult ritual using death symbols and organized by her aunts, uncles, and other family members. Her father was in on it, too, although he wasn’t present at the abuse. She said that her father was a lawyer of extremely high standing and that those same relatives served as judges and politicians.
It’s also important to note that the above people ran the gamut of cultures.
Being British or European or American made no difference—it was all the same dysfunction.
Almost EVERYONE in charge is totally bonkers: media-bobbleheads, politicians, talk show hosts, actors, musicians, screenwriters, producers, judges, professors, scientists, chief doctors...
Yet they're the ones telling us what to think and how to behave.
The point of knowing all this is to really understand who is behind everything that’s affecting your life and why things are getting so crazy.
It’s been predicted throughout millennia of our Sages’ writings that the End of Days would be accompanied by extremely dysfunctional behavior and that people like the ones described above would be in charge.
Why would Hashem do that to us?
Well, there’s no other way to shake us free of our dependence on other human beings. By corrupting all other avenues of rescue, support and power, Hashem forces us to realize that we truly have no other on which to rely except Him.
May we always merit to place our full trust and faith in the One and Only King.