When Rav Kanievsky initially brought his son to kindergarten, the boy struggled to adjust. He cried, not wanting to separate from his father.
So Rav Kanievsky asked the rebbi if it would be a problem if Rav Kanievsky stayed in the kindergarten, quietly learning Torah, until his son adjusted.
The rebbi agreed to the suggestion and Rav Kanievsky ended up learning there every morning for the next 30 days!
At that point, his son no longer feared being in the care of his teacher without his parents and Rav Kanievsky resumed his normal kollel schedule.
(Please also note how it was Rav Kanievsky who brought his son to kindergarten, rather than his dedicated wife. Yes, Rebbetzin Batsheva was a superwoman in the best sense of the term, but no human being can do everything. Only Hashem can do everything perfectly all the time.)
Daily Parenting Tip #424: Dedication Above & Beyond
Why Is It So Important to Tell These Kinds of Stories?
This left many people with the impression that a truly Torah-dedicated family lives like widows & orphans (albeit with the yoke of a husband & father—meaning, without all the positive aspects a man brings to marriage and family).
It was mistakenly portrayed as the ideal in many articles and lectures.
Unfortunately, it allowed for a certain amount of dysfunction in couples who honestly thought they should live like this, in addition to marriage advisers who also mistakenly thought this was a valid way of living.
And one of the aspects I appreciate in the charedi community is how it self-corrects more than any other group I've ever seen.
Once people became aware of the imbalance in the presentation of our greatest, they sought to correct it by revealing the real behavior of these great people at home.
For more on the behavior of Gedolim at home, please see: