"If the Torah is So Adamant, Then That Must Mean Something Huge" Series: Toeva
Healing Adam and Steve
And though I have no personal experience with the following resources, they certainly seem worth a try:
1) I guess the most well-known group is JONAH. They deal with healing and support for same-gender attraction and are definitely worth a look. I found their testimonials quite compelling.
2) Reading his articles shows that Dr. Zev Ballen has dealt with the most harrowing traumas and is also the founder of Emuna Therapy. Additionally, he has also trained many people to be Emuna therapists. A method using genuine emuna is definitely worth a try.
3) I do know that the late Dr. William Glasser had success using his Reality Therapy techniques for this issue (although I suppose you would have to find a Reality therapist nowadays who believes that this issue even needs healing).
4) As referenced in the section on Reparative/Conversion therapy in Part I, a comprehensive list and description of various practioners, methods, and studies is detailed here.
If you're going to go through a therapist or rabbi or some other kind of advisor for this issue, it is very important that the person be sympathetic. There needs to be deep appreciation for the difficulty of this particular nisayon along with the firm belief that success is definitely possible. There is absolutely no need for the advisor to display any disgust or harshness or ridicule. There should be healthy boundaries during the counseling and absolutely no indication of exploitation of any kind.
Whether you are looking for guidance for yourself or a loved one, it's important to check out the advisor's attitude and track record before putting yourself (or your loved one) in such a vulnerable situation.
Particularly for men, this is one of the hardest nisayons to deal with. Even if you rebound or stumble in some way during the process of healing, please remember that every step you take forward is changing the world in ways you can't perceive but for which you will receive unimaginable reward.
Especially in today's world where the entire Western society is saying that this IS good, that this IS natural, that it is your RIGHT, and so on....when you stop yourself from watching, doing, or even thinking anything to do with toeva, you have done something incomprehensibly powerful.
Because in today's world, the only reason to take steps toward healing this issue is purely because Hashem said so - solely because you have chosen to what Hashem wants, putting Hashem's desire ahead of your own.
That kind of thing can sweeten even the most firmly set and harshest decree.
This means that no matter who you are and what level you are on, you can prevent a terror attack or avert a any kind of disaster just in the privacy of your own room.
(Needless to say, these are not my own opinions, but are culled from Torah sources.)
Finally, it’s important to remember that this nisayon is from Hashem and dealing with it is somehow for your benefit, painful and frustrating though it may be. Regardless of what options you choose for yourself or a loved one, it is important to maintain a constant connection with Hashem and a firm belief in His Love for you, no matter how much you stumble.
Hatzlacha Rabbah to everyone.
P.S. If you want, you can send me your name for davening here and I will be happy to daven for you.