(Note: If you haven't heard about Zoey née Bob Tur's confrontation with Ben Shapiro, it's basically that Ben defined all this trans stuff as "a delusion" and "a mental illness" that needs compassionate treatment - like his grandfather's manic-depression, Ben mentioned by way of example - and when Ben said to Tur: "And what about your genetics, sir?" Tur place his hand firmly on the back of Ben's neck and said in a low, menacing voice, “You better cut that out now, or you’ll go home in an ambulance.” Later, Tur threatened Ben, “I’ll see you in the parking lot” and tweeted about his willingness to “curb stomp” Ben.)
Have you ever met a female who behaves like that?
Well, you might say, there are women who are physically violent. Heck, look at girl gangs.
Okay. Let's talk about that.
Where I went to high school, girls occasionally attacked other girls, so I feel I can speak with some experience about female-on-female violence.
Girls either punch, slap, or do this hand-pushing thing on the person’s upper arm, maybe grab each other’s upper arms and start struggling. They do NOT grab the other girl by the scruff of the neck and calmly yet menacingly threaten to send her home in an ambulance. (Girls speak with more emotion in such situations.)
They don’t threaten physical violence because asked them about their genetics or biology and called them “Sir” (as what happened when the trans guy lost it with Ben Shapiro). Basically, just because you said something that made them feel invalidated?
No. Girls get violent only when they feel betrayed:
- Another girl talked about her behind her back
- Another girl got too friendly with the first girl’s boyfriend
I never saw girls get physically aggressive or threaten violence for feeling invalidated, as Tur did to Ben.
Also, violent girls are more direct. They come up to you and challenge: “I heard you been talkin’ about me behind my back!” Or, “I heard you been messin’ with my man!”
No unemotional yet menacing threats. (That kind of posturing is stereotypically male and can also be seen among animals in the wild.)
Girls just get very upset and to-the-point. Then…POW!
But of course, there are emotionally unhealthy women.
So how do they tend to behave?
They often get emotional, like describing in a high-pitched shaky voice how the intensity of her emotions (brought on by your terrible behavior!) is making it hard for her to think coherently—and considering that a compelling, respectable argument. (This is how one female participant argued with Ben during the Tur episode.) Or they might give you the silent treatment in a huffy manner. Or they might cry.
(Note: Crying in and of itself is not an emotionally unhealthy reaction, but sometimes it is used that way.)
Within marriage, some women act out after long-term provocation by whapping their husband across the chest, back, or upper arm ONCE with a folded bath towel or pillow.
(Usually, the husband experiences absolutely no pain, and davka is surprised, pleased, and gratified by this action on the part of his wife.)
The point is that when women physically attack men, it's with a LOT of emotion. If a woman attacks a man, it means she's reached her breaking point and is lashing out. (Again, this could come after long-term provocation on the part of the man or it could be because she is crazy and violent - or a combination of both - but the point is that a woman wouldn't do the whole calm-yet-menacing threat thing, the dominance-asserting firm-but-not-yet-painful touch, etc., that Tur did with Ben Shapiro. Tur's approach was clearly masculine.)
And that's about it for female physical aggression.
The Big Motivation for Men to become Women: Envy
Well, the thing is…they don’t.
You will never meet a trans who actually behaves and thinks like a woman.
They always behave like men, or like an unhealthy man’s ideal woman, as shown in Part I.
Men who want to become women actually display appalling poor understanding of women, as demonstrated by the men above.
And they're strongly motivated by jealousy. They've envious of certain "freedoms" they perceive women as having. But as discussed in Part I, this is based on very shallow, one-dimensional perceptions of women.
"Hot Babe" Envy
For example, men attracted to their own gender (as trans men MUST be, in addition to everything else) are often jealous of the attention women can attract just by walking down the street, especially if she’s wearing certain clothes.
This is why young men attracted to their own gender will strut down the street in a certain way while wearing specific clothing. They get frustrated by the fact that only men like them (less than 4% of the population) will ogle them. Their dress and manner cause eye-rolling and giggles or disinterest in everybody else.
This is why men who want to become women never become some overalls-wearing mousey-haired girl in a ponytail raking out stalls on her family farm in the Midwest. It’s always avant-garde, eye-catching, and so on. They will also dress provocatively and engage with countless partners. They will never talk about “saving themselves for the right guy” or for marriage or anything else that real women might do. They never yearn to be pregnant and have children in the same way women do.
Their other envy is of women’s emotional outbursts. They have noticed that, culturally speaking, women are allowed to express a wider range of emotion than men are—both the positive and negative. Women can cry, be depressed, helpless, anxious, catty, giddy, and happy, women can jump for joy, clap, scream at scary parts in movies, squeal, shriek with laughter, giggle, along with all sorts of other emotional expressions. Women can also express anger. Terms like “hissy fit” “PMSing” “hysterical” “cat fight” “hormonal” have distinctly feminine associations and specifically refer to female expression of anger.
I’m not saying that women necessarily express themselves in these ways, but some do or do occasionally. Yet if men expressed anger in the way some women do, it would provoke derision and laughter. (So the trans man goes for surgery so that he can act out his faulty impression of negative female behaviors and then demand that society honor him for it. Nice deal!)
For better and for worse, women are more sensitive, which means that it is generally easier to rile up a woman or bring her to tears (which is why the Gemara says that husbands must speak sensitively to their wives).
Men like Tur obviously misinterpret female behavior. As a woman, he feels he is now allowed to get offended more easily—rather than having to “take it like a man” or “man up.”
Furthermore, Tur clearly feels he is allowed to act out negative female behaviors when the truth is that mature people of either gender do their best to avoid indulging in whatever negative behaviors their particular gender tends toward.
Except that Tur didn’t have a hissy-fit at Ben Shapiro. Nor was he irritable due to it being “that time of the month,” nor was he hysterical. He did not sit there blathering about how Ben’s attitude made him feel.
Instead, Tur confronted Ben in a stereotypically (negative) masculine manner: the manner of a testosterone-blown gorilla who start chest-pounding at the first sign of any threat to their dominance.
Rather than acting like any woman, Tur responded in exactly the way that immature, bullying men have always responded: with physical posturing (putting his hand on Ben's arm and then on Ben's neck to assert his dominance) and threats of violence.
The Deeper Problem of This Delusional Movement
Trans as a Past-Life Issue
In one article, a male child insisted he was a girl named Penelope and started describing Penelope.
Manipulatively, the article did not describe the rest of the interview with the child. But to me, it sounded chillingly like a child recalling a past-life personality in which he was a girl named Penelope.
But in mainstream psychology, you can't bring up reincarnation because it's not "scientific." However, these supposedly trans children tend to speak exactly like children who recall their past life.
This is very scary.
And who knows how far this can be taken? Families tend to reincarnate together. What if a child insists that a parent or sibling in this life is actually their spouse (as may have been true in a former life)? What if the child remembers being a pirate or a cannibal?
Trans as a Tool of the Occult
Finally, as shown in Why, This All Reminds Me of Ancient Mesopotamia!, this idea of changing men into women was inherent in at least some forms of avodah zarah. I mean, you had a famous high priestess princess boasting of it.
Why and how it was used?
I'm not sure.
But they apparently were convinced of its occult power to...what? I don't know.
Ultimately, this is a scary movement, much scarier than most people realize.
Relating to individuals, no matter how wacky, with compassion is very important.
But it is not remotely compassionate to validate the very wrong and harmful perceptions innate to a trans person.