Before I continue writing about my son’s experiences in the IDF, I wanted to publicize an issue that I think many Anglos aren’t aware of it because, again, I never saw it covered in any media and socially, Anglos who join the IDF tend to go into combat and other essential units.
Whether you encounter this particular mentality within Israeli society depends on what circles you’re in and whether you yourself possess a mentality that allows you to recognize the dynamic when you see it.
So this is what it is:
Most Israelis are brought up with the idea that IDF service IN & OF ITSELF is an all-important & VITAL contribution.
Yes: Vital. Absolutely Essential!
It does not matter whether you only served 3 days a week or every other week (AKA shavua-shavua, which for guys equals 1.5 years of service, not 3).
It does not matter the sheer uselessness of your role. (Some army duties are made up simply to fulfill the demand.)
It doesn’t matter if you served as, say, a jeep mechanic (which you chose, not out of Zionist idealism, but in order to get a head start on the vocation for which you’re aiming after your reluctant army service ends), and while yes, of course an army needs expert jeep mechanics, they don’t need SO many.
In other words, the actual job is important...but you personally are expendable.
The IDF has a surplus of jeep mechanics. Yet despite that, you have made an all-important contribution to your country and shared the burden — unlike those "parasitic" yeshivah bums. [sarc]
It also doesn’t matter if you are recruited into a role which you PHYSICALLY CANNOT perform...such as the 18-year-old Moroccan pixie from Dimona assigned to the fire brigade when she lacks the upper body strength to manage the high-powered fire hose.
And because even 2 girls together are not strong enough to handle the hose, they need a male colleague to join them in order for the girls to simply pass the test.
How on earth is this kind of assignment remotely rational or productive?
Note: Just for knowing, fire fighters serve in the IAF [Israeli Air Force] as part of the on-call emergency team at the runway for incoming fighter jets.
Part of the fire-training consists of sawing through the window of the cockpit of a burning jet to extract the pilot. This needs to be done carefully so as not to decapitate the pilot in the process.
Do I really need to explain how most teenage girls not only lack the basic physical strength for such maneuvers, but lack even the potential of gaining the necessary muscle unless they take steroids?
I guess I do, because the army has girls serving in the IAF fire brigade! Someone should really wake up the fellows in the top-brass…
It doesn’t matter if you spent a massive part of your “army” service noshing on American candy bars while watching American sitcoms in an air-conditioned room on an IAF base (which does nothing to protect us from our enemies, unless of course, ISIS feels faint from the smell of chocolate-peanut breath and the sound of scripted punchlines).
In an nutshell, the non-charedi Israeli mentality is thus:
The fact that you are officially enlisted in the IDF means you are paying your dues to society.
It doesn't matter what you do or whether you can even do it.
It doesn't matter whether what you contributes NOTHING to national security in any way, shape, or form.
It doesn't even matter whether your role ironically WEAKENS the military (like petite teenage girls in the fire brigade).
Just the bare fact of an assigned role within the military means you are paying your dues and sharing the societal "burden."
Whether you encounter this particular mentality within Israeli society depends on what circles you’re in and whether you yourself possess a mentality that allows you to recognize the dynamic when you see it.
So this is what it is:
Most Israelis are brought up with the idea that IDF service IN & OF ITSELF is an all-important & VITAL contribution.
Yes: Vital. Absolutely Essential!
It does not matter whether you only served 3 days a week or every other week (AKA shavua-shavua, which for guys equals 1.5 years of service, not 3).
It does not matter the sheer uselessness of your role. (Some army duties are made up simply to fulfill the demand.)
It doesn’t matter if you served as, say, a jeep mechanic (which you chose, not out of Zionist idealism, but in order to get a head start on the vocation for which you’re aiming after your reluctant army service ends), and while yes, of course an army needs expert jeep mechanics, they don’t need SO many.
In other words, the actual job is important...but you personally are expendable.
The IDF has a surplus of jeep mechanics. Yet despite that, you have made an all-important contribution to your country and shared the burden — unlike those "parasitic" yeshivah bums. [sarc]
It also doesn’t matter if you are recruited into a role which you PHYSICALLY CANNOT perform...such as the 18-year-old Moroccan pixie from Dimona assigned to the fire brigade when she lacks the upper body strength to manage the high-powered fire hose.
And because even 2 girls together are not strong enough to handle the hose, they need a male colleague to join them in order for the girls to simply pass the test.
How on earth is this kind of assignment remotely rational or productive?
Note: Just for knowing, fire fighters serve in the IAF [Israeli Air Force] as part of the on-call emergency team at the runway for incoming fighter jets.
Part of the fire-training consists of sawing through the window of the cockpit of a burning jet to extract the pilot. This needs to be done carefully so as not to decapitate the pilot in the process.
Do I really need to explain how most teenage girls not only lack the basic physical strength for such maneuvers, but lack even the potential of gaining the necessary muscle unless they take steroids?
I guess I do, because the army has girls serving in the IAF fire brigade! Someone should really wake up the fellows in the top-brass…
It doesn’t matter if you spent a massive part of your “army” service noshing on American candy bars while watching American sitcoms in an air-conditioned room on an IAF base (which does nothing to protect us from our enemies, unless of course, ISIS feels faint from the smell of chocolate-peanut breath and the sound of scripted punchlines).
In an nutshell, the non-charedi Israeli mentality is thus:
The fact that you are officially enlisted in the IDF means you are paying your dues to society.
It doesn't matter what you do or whether you can even do it.
It doesn't matter whether what you contributes NOTHING to national security in any way, shape, or form.
It doesn't even matter whether your role ironically WEAKENS the military (like petite teenage girls in the fire brigade).
Just the bare fact of an assigned role within the military means you are paying your dues and sharing the societal "burden."
Not All Service is Equal
So according to this mentality, it doesn’t matter WHAT you do in the army, nor how useless or useful your particular role is in the army.
Just the barebones fact that you are enlisted awards you social credit.
To be clear: I’m NOT talking about combat and essential military non-combat duties.
Like most other people, I appreciate combat soldiers & all the non-combat yet essential military personnel working for our national security.
Just for knowing, when I pass through a checkpoint, whether at a mall or the Kotel or anywhere else, I often tell the soldier or security guard, "Hashem yishmor otcha, tizkeh l'mitzvot — May Hashem protect you & and may you continue to merit doing mitzvot."
So while I write against the forced draft for females & yeshivah bachurs, it's not from a lack of appreciation for what effective IDF positions do.
I fully realize many soldiers (and police & security guards, for that matter) risk trauma, injury, and even death (chas v'shalom) so I & everyone else in the country can live here.
However, hungover kvetchy moppers are not anywhere in the same league — which Israelis acknowledge. But what many Israelis don’t acknowledge is that the hungover kvetchy moppers and the pixie fire-girls DON’T CONTRIBUTE AT ALL IN ANY WAY. Their service is meaningless.
It's nothing.
Yet many Israelis cannot emotionally face this fact.
Just the barebones fact that you are enlisted awards you social credit.
To be clear: I’m NOT talking about combat and essential military non-combat duties.
Like most other people, I appreciate combat soldiers & all the non-combat yet essential military personnel working for our national security.
Just for knowing, when I pass through a checkpoint, whether at a mall or the Kotel or anywhere else, I often tell the soldier or security guard, "Hashem yishmor otcha, tizkeh l'mitzvot — May Hashem protect you & and may you continue to merit doing mitzvot."
So while I write against the forced draft for females & yeshivah bachurs, it's not from a lack of appreciation for what effective IDF positions do.
I fully realize many soldiers (and police & security guards, for that matter) risk trauma, injury, and even death (chas v'shalom) so I & everyone else in the country can live here.
However, hungover kvetchy moppers are not anywhere in the same league — which Israelis acknowledge. But what many Israelis don’t acknowledge is that the hungover kvetchy moppers and the pixie fire-girls DON’T CONTRIBUTE AT ALL IN ANY WAY. Their service is meaningless.
It's nothing.
Yet many Israelis cannot emotionally face this fact.
Reluctant "Heroes"?
Furthermore, here is the attitude expressed by many Israelis:
“Paying your debt to society.”
I’m not saying that Israelis use this exact term. But many express that attitude when speaking about their army service.
That’s simply how an increasing amount of Israelis view their army service.
And again, they see army service this way even if they did nothing useful for 2 or 3 years. They paid their debt to society. They shared their part of the burden.
If you’re American, you’re probably familiar with that phrase utilized to describe the purpose of prison (which is also an absurd concept — how does sitting in a cell pay any kind of debt to society?).
In contrast to what you see in the English-language Jewish media, which focuses on combat soldiers (who are of course going to be more enthusiastic & idealistic about their service), the non-essential jobnik Israelis actively pursue the least demanding & fulfilling roles in the army.
They don’t want to be there and focus on getting through the army in the least demanding way possible.
And because the IDF and many government ministers need to find roles for all the useless enlistees (so they can keep insisting on a mandatory draft for all), they refuse to allow "soldiers" to double-up on roles.
(Like is there any reason why the human resources guy or the culture-and-recreation girl couldn't clean the base during their hours and hours of spare time each day? Does the IDF really need to draft guys just to clean the base a few days a week, as described here?)
“Paying your debt to society.”
I’m not saying that Israelis use this exact term. But many express that attitude when speaking about their army service.
That’s simply how an increasing amount of Israelis view their army service.
And again, they see army service this way even if they did nothing useful for 2 or 3 years. They paid their debt to society. They shared their part of the burden.
If you’re American, you’re probably familiar with that phrase utilized to describe the purpose of prison (which is also an absurd concept — how does sitting in a cell pay any kind of debt to society?).
In contrast to what you see in the English-language Jewish media, which focuses on combat soldiers (who are of course going to be more enthusiastic & idealistic about their service), the non-essential jobnik Israelis actively pursue the least demanding & fulfilling roles in the army.
They don’t want to be there and focus on getting through the army in the least demanding way possible.
And because the IDF and many government ministers need to find roles for all the useless enlistees (so they can keep insisting on a mandatory draft for all), they refuse to allow "soldiers" to double-up on roles.
(Like is there any reason why the human resources guy or the culture-and-recreation girl couldn't clean the base during their hours and hours of spare time each day? Does the IDF really need to draft guys just to clean the base a few days a week, as described here?)
The Fast-Track to Greatness?
Also, because I initially started out in Israel among the dati-leumi crowd (which tends to be more idealistic & patriotic), I rarely encountered the other Israelis who consider army service a drag to endure in order to "earn" basic worth as a citizen — AND feel superior to non-serving charedim….EVEN IF YOU AREN’T JEWISH and the despised charedim are fully shomer Torah & mitzvot.
And this is a huge thing that needs attention.
Why?
Because of this mentality (“Army service over all”), this means that a non-Jewish Ukrainian thug officially enlisted in the IDF (even if he does nothing) receives social worth...while someone on the level of Rav Kanievsky is considered a parasite.
(And there is a notorious pansy-Leftist who speaks exactly this way.)
The same holds true for the daughter of a Jewish father and the non-Jewish woman he brought over from Russia or Thailand or England.
Her (generally useless) army service grants her social & cultural superiority over a non-serving Torah Jew.
That’s right. In Eretz Yisrael, where the combination of Jews & Torah are more important than anything else, a non-Jew who serves in the IDF receives higher social standing than a Torah-observant Jew who does not.
To repeat: A non-Jew of Jew-hating lineage (i.e., many Ukrainians) can acquire cultural & social superiority over fully shomer Torah & mitzvot Jews (including tzaddikim) simply by waving the magic wand of army “service.”
This does not even begin to address the damage of intermarriage, increased crime, alcoholism, and white slavery that accompany these waves of non-Jewish immigrants.
And do you think that’s a coincidence?
I don’t. Definitely not.
Note: While different groups (Jews, Muslims, Christians, Druze, etc.) have lived in Eretz Yisrael for centuries, there was no blurring of identities. Everyone knew exactly who they were & who everyone else was too.
But for several decades now, secular Leftist henchmen have been trying to make a social melting pot to create everyone in their secular Leftist Communist image.
And they give no credence to the Torah, so the fact (as history proves) that this Land indeed vomits out its inhabitants when she can no longer tolerate their lack of Torah values — this doesn't faze them at all. The elitists in control consider intermarriage (with good-looking white women, at least) a good thing.
Let’s go on.
And this is a huge thing that needs attention.
Why?
Because of this mentality (“Army service over all”), this means that a non-Jewish Ukrainian thug officially enlisted in the IDF (even if he does nothing) receives social worth...while someone on the level of Rav Kanievsky is considered a parasite.
(And there is a notorious pansy-Leftist who speaks exactly this way.)
The same holds true for the daughter of a Jewish father and the non-Jewish woman he brought over from Russia or Thailand or England.
Her (generally useless) army service grants her social & cultural superiority over a non-serving Torah Jew.
That’s right. In Eretz Yisrael, where the combination of Jews & Torah are more important than anything else, a non-Jew who serves in the IDF receives higher social standing than a Torah-observant Jew who does not.
To repeat: A non-Jew of Jew-hating lineage (i.e., many Ukrainians) can acquire cultural & social superiority over fully shomer Torah & mitzvot Jews (including tzaddikim) simply by waving the magic wand of army “service.”
This does not even begin to address the damage of intermarriage, increased crime, alcoholism, and white slavery that accompany these waves of non-Jewish immigrants.
And do you think that’s a coincidence?
I don’t. Definitely not.
Note: While different groups (Jews, Muslims, Christians, Druze, etc.) have lived in Eretz Yisrael for centuries, there was no blurring of identities. Everyone knew exactly who they were & who everyone else was too.
But for several decades now, secular Leftist henchmen have been trying to make a social melting pot to create everyone in their secular Leftist Communist image.
And they give no credence to the Torah, so the fact (as history proves) that this Land indeed vomits out its inhabitants when she can no longer tolerate their lack of Torah values — this doesn't faze them at all. The elitists in control consider intermarriage (with good-looking white women, at least) a good thing.
Let’s go on.
The Crucial Question Tearing Society Apart:
Is Israel Located in the Middle East...or Candy Land?
The thing is, if you bring up this point to your average Israeli (“But why is a girl who sits in her office all day watching pirated movies on her cell phone and doing literally nothing else for her entire service—except showing the base an American movie one night—considered as having shared the burden? Why is her army “service” so important?”), they either get stunned speechless or angry.
(This is why I never bring this up to non-charedi Israelis. Actually, that's not completely true. I did bring it up twice as you'll soon see. Once, very carefully; and another time, quite by accident, which I kind of regretted later.)
Disturbingly, many Israelis never considered the VALUE of their service.
Why should meaningfulness or military usefulness be important to a tiny nation surrounded by some of the most vicious & savage terrorists on the planet?
That was a sarcastic question.
After all...are we living in the Middle East or in Candy Land?
Quite frankly, some of us are concerned about the massive armies of bloodthirsty Jew-haters on every border — and also the fifth column WITHIN our borders.
Can't we focus on that?
Yet certain types of Israelis never consider the concept of military usefulness.
Or effectiveness regarding national security.
(That’s scary because it’s such an obvious lack of logic, it can only derive from brainwashing and propaganda.)
And they can get angry because they don’t appreciate the idea of all their “suffering” (i.e., undergoing basic training for nothing, then carrying out boring & meaningless roles) being for naught.
Or because something on which they hang their “rights” as a citizen is actually meaningless in the scheme of things — if you look at the whole situation from a purely objective point of view.
Especially with non-Jewish Russian soldiers or the non-Jewish children of Israeli intermarriage, they get their socially inferred "superiority" over fully Torah Jews simply because of their army enlistment. Ta-dah!
The dati-leumi remain more aware of this contradiction, partly because their girls tend to do sherut leumi rather than the army, and so they’re already aware of the reasons why not EVERYONE needs to be in the army.
(This is why I never bring this up to non-charedi Israelis. Actually, that's not completely true. I did bring it up twice as you'll soon see. Once, very carefully; and another time, quite by accident, which I kind of regretted later.)
Disturbingly, many Israelis never considered the VALUE of their service.
Why should meaningfulness or military usefulness be important to a tiny nation surrounded by some of the most vicious & savage terrorists on the planet?
That was a sarcastic question.
After all...are we living in the Middle East or in Candy Land?
Quite frankly, some of us are concerned about the massive armies of bloodthirsty Jew-haters on every border — and also the fifth column WITHIN our borders.
Can't we focus on that?
Yet certain types of Israelis never consider the concept of military usefulness.
Or effectiveness regarding national security.
(That’s scary because it’s such an obvious lack of logic, it can only derive from brainwashing and propaganda.)
And they can get angry because they don’t appreciate the idea of all their “suffering” (i.e., undergoing basic training for nothing, then carrying out boring & meaningless roles) being for naught.
Or because something on which they hang their “rights” as a citizen is actually meaningless in the scheme of things — if you look at the whole situation from a purely objective point of view.
Especially with non-Jewish Russian soldiers or the non-Jewish children of Israeli intermarriage, they get their socially inferred "superiority" over fully Torah Jews simply because of their army enlistment. Ta-dah!
The dati-leumi remain more aware of this contradiction, partly because their girls tend to do sherut leumi rather than the army, and so they’re already aware of the reasons why not EVERYONE needs to be in the army.
M-16s for Boys & Uzis for Girls
Interestingly, in my early years (early 1990s) in Eretz Yisrael, I only occasionally ran into this attitude of reluctant service.
It generally came from secular girls who complained about how meaningless & frustrating their service felt. They resented the stupid regulations and capricious commanding officers, and in the case of guard duty — fear of having to actually use their weapon & training.
As the wife (who is now fully frum and a really lovely person) of my husband’s brother told me, “When I was out there guarding the base, I was so scared! I kept hoping nothing would ever happen because despite my training, I really didn’t feel up to actually fighting. I decided to myself that if worse came to worse, I would just let the male soldiers handle it.”
She looked at me. “I really don’t think that girls are cut out for this kind of thing. Do you?”
Obviously, she couldn’t say that during her service because a guard cannot have a preset plan to duck out during an attack.
(And it actually happened at one base, when an unqualified male soldier turned tail under a surprise attack, which led to several deaths on base.)
But my sister-in-law expressed genuine fear at the prospect of a machine gun battle.
She’s a quiet, gentle, lovely soul and, even as a secular girl, not cut out for gun battles.
That was her enforced, reluctant, share-the-burden service to her country (which again, wasn't real service; she didn't do anything).
Another secular Israeli girl told me, “We carried Uzis — with no bullets! The boys got M-16s with ammunition, but the girls got empty Uzis that we HAD to carry around all the time! What for? It was so stupid!”
(FYI: My son claims this is no longer true, that there is no longer a gender split over who gets the Uzis and who gets the M-16s, and also girl-soldiers no longer go around with empty rifles.)
But later, as a young married woman accompanying my husband in kiruv, I was exposed to the completely brainwashed Israelis, as you’ll see from the following examples...
It generally came from secular girls who complained about how meaningless & frustrating their service felt. They resented the stupid regulations and capricious commanding officers, and in the case of guard duty — fear of having to actually use their weapon & training.
As the wife (who is now fully frum and a really lovely person) of my husband’s brother told me, “When I was out there guarding the base, I was so scared! I kept hoping nothing would ever happen because despite my training, I really didn’t feel up to actually fighting. I decided to myself that if worse came to worse, I would just let the male soldiers handle it.”
She looked at me. “I really don’t think that girls are cut out for this kind of thing. Do you?”
Obviously, she couldn’t say that during her service because a guard cannot have a preset plan to duck out during an attack.
(And it actually happened at one base, when an unqualified male soldier turned tail under a surprise attack, which led to several deaths on base.)
But my sister-in-law expressed genuine fear at the prospect of a machine gun battle.
She’s a quiet, gentle, lovely soul and, even as a secular girl, not cut out for gun battles.
That was her enforced, reluctant, share-the-burden service to her country (which again, wasn't real service; she didn't do anything).
Another secular Israeli girl told me, “We carried Uzis — with no bullets! The boys got M-16s with ammunition, but the girls got empty Uzis that we HAD to carry around all the time! What for? It was so stupid!”
(FYI: My son claims this is no longer true, that there is no longer a gender split over who gets the Uzis and who gets the M-16s, and also girl-soldiers no longer go around with empty rifles.)
But later, as a young married woman accompanying my husband in kiruv, I was exposed to the completely brainwashed Israelis, as you’ll see from the following examples...
Story #1: "At Least He Did His Army Service."
Here’s an example of just how deep this irrational mentality goes:
During our early years of marriage, my husband (who learned in kollel full-time) worked part-time alongside secular mildly Leftist Israeli university students who usually wore long hair pulled back in ponytails.
During free moments, these young men enjoyed interacting with my husband via chatting or short ‘n’ friendly religious debates.
Accompanying my husband, I mostly just listened.
Yet curious to the extent of the insistence on the overriding importance of army service for all no matter what, I ended up asking one of the guys about his thoughts on the issue while my husband was nearby.
This university student was a particularly nice and intelligent guy.
First, I acknowledged the importance of combat soldiers and any other role necessary for security — whether it was the cook who fed the soldiers or the guy sitting behind a computer in Intelligence.
Soldiers need to eat. And technology plays a huge role in security these days.
I also emphasized that I was not looking to argue or criticize, but simply sought understanding out of genuine curiosity.
Then I presented him with a theoretical (yet actual) situation in which an Israeli serves a non-essential army position, then immediately leaves the country to settle in Europe or North America, and never contributes in any way to the State of Israel.
Then I contrasted that to a guy (frum, of course) who never served in the IDF, but pays taxes, gets married and raises a family in Israel (contributing to the population), and who — as a consumer and a citizen — contributes naturally to the Israeli economy & society in a positive way. He also gives tzedakah to help his fellow poor.
Then I asked the big questions:
To his credit, the university student spent several moments giving the questions serious thought.
He even paused in his pondering to reassure me he definitely understood where I was coming from and that he understood and even appreciated the point (which, because of all the propaganda — my word, not his — he’d never considered).
Then he continued to mull it over.
Interestingly, his facial expressions and the way he made fists showed that he was actually wrestling with the question.
But finally, he shook his head and said, “I see what you’re saying — I definitely understand and think you have a point, but”— he grimaced and shook his head — “but I just”— he shook his head again and knocked his fists against the desk and looked me in the eye. “I just think that”— he took a deep breath —“at least the first guy did army service. At least he did that.”
“Even though he ultimately contributed nothing to the country?” I said.
He winced and held up his hands, shaking his head, “I know…I understand the point — and it’s a good question! But I just can’t —” His hands fell with a smack on the desktop and he looked me in the eye again. “At least he did his army service.”
“So he contributed more than the other guy who didn’t do the army?” I said.
“Yeah,” he nodded. “Yeah. That’s right.”
I thanked him very nicely and told him how much I appreciated his time & honesty, then turned back to where my husband was talking to someone else.
I felt sad because the university student was a nice and intelligent person and he was willing to listen to an opposing idea. And he DID get it...but simply could not overcome his programming.
Yet it taught me a big lesson.
The dedication to the idea of "army service for all" remains deep-seated to the point of any logic.
During our early years of marriage, my husband (who learned in kollel full-time) worked part-time alongside secular mildly Leftist Israeli university students who usually wore long hair pulled back in ponytails.
During free moments, these young men enjoyed interacting with my husband via chatting or short ‘n’ friendly religious debates.
Accompanying my husband, I mostly just listened.
Yet curious to the extent of the insistence on the overriding importance of army service for all no matter what, I ended up asking one of the guys about his thoughts on the issue while my husband was nearby.
This university student was a particularly nice and intelligent guy.
First, I acknowledged the importance of combat soldiers and any other role necessary for security — whether it was the cook who fed the soldiers or the guy sitting behind a computer in Intelligence.
Soldiers need to eat. And technology plays a huge role in security these days.
I also emphasized that I was not looking to argue or criticize, but simply sought understanding out of genuine curiosity.
Then I presented him with a theoretical (yet actual) situation in which an Israeli serves a non-essential army position, then immediately leaves the country to settle in Europe or North America, and never contributes in any way to the State of Israel.
Then I contrasted that to a guy (frum, of course) who never served in the IDF, but pays taxes, gets married and raises a family in Israel (contributing to the population), and who — as a consumer and a citizen — contributes naturally to the Israeli economy & society in a positive way. He also gives tzedakah to help his fellow poor.
Then I asked the big questions:
- Who really made a contribution to Israeli society — to Medinat Yisrael?
- And is it okay that the second guy never served in the army?
To his credit, the university student spent several moments giving the questions serious thought.
He even paused in his pondering to reassure me he definitely understood where I was coming from and that he understood and even appreciated the point (which, because of all the propaganda — my word, not his — he’d never considered).
Then he continued to mull it over.
Interestingly, his facial expressions and the way he made fists showed that he was actually wrestling with the question.
But finally, he shook his head and said, “I see what you’re saying — I definitely understand and think you have a point, but”— he grimaced and shook his head — “but I just”— he shook his head again and knocked his fists against the desk and looked me in the eye. “I just think that”— he took a deep breath —“at least the first guy did army service. At least he did that.”
“Even though he ultimately contributed nothing to the country?” I said.
He winced and held up his hands, shaking his head, “I know…I understand the point — and it’s a good question! But I just can’t —” His hands fell with a smack on the desktop and he looked me in the eye again. “At least he did his army service.”
“So he contributed more than the other guy who didn’t do the army?” I said.
“Yeah,” he nodded. “Yeah. That’s right.”
I thanked him very nicely and told him how much I appreciated his time & honesty, then turned back to where my husband was talking to someone else.
I felt sad because the university student was a nice and intelligent person and he was willing to listen to an opposing idea. And he DID get it...but simply could not overcome his programming.
Yet it taught me a big lesson.
The dedication to the idea of "army service for all" remains deep-seated to the point of any logic.
Story #2: How Dare She Not Swing Her Ponytail for the Cause!
Later, I read an article regarding a male Israeli singer who objected to a young female singer winning an award for her music.
“She never served in the IDF!” he protested. “How can we grant an award to someone who doesn’t even fulfill the basic obligation of every Israeli citizen?”
The article grew even more ridiculous (and perplexing) as it revealed his oh-so heilige army service consisted of...the army choir.
And that would have been her army service, too.
If you haven’t seen the girls of the IDF choir, this oh-so vital military service consists of them singing while swinging their hips and ponytails while wearing an IDF uniform shirt that’s unbuttoned too low.
And then of course, religious male soldiers are raked across the coals because they don’t want to watch young women objectifying themselves. Such fanatics!
Anyway, this male singer was outraged because she hadn’t served in this all-important military position — how disloyal and unpatriotic, shirking her military duty when EVERYONE ELSE serves their time! How dare she receive an award!
Anyway…
“She never served in the IDF!” he protested. “How can we grant an award to someone who doesn’t even fulfill the basic obligation of every Israeli citizen?”
The article grew even more ridiculous (and perplexing) as it revealed his oh-so heilige army service consisted of...the army choir.
And that would have been her army service, too.
If you haven’t seen the girls of the IDF choir, this oh-so vital military service consists of them singing while swinging their hips and ponytails while wearing an IDF uniform shirt that’s unbuttoned too low.
And then of course, religious male soldiers are raked across the coals because they don’t want to watch young women objectifying themselves. Such fanatics!
Anyway, this male singer was outraged because she hadn’t served in this all-important military position — how disloyal and unpatriotic, shirking her military duty when EVERYONE ELSE serves their time! How dare she receive an award!
Anyway…
Story #3: Armored Corps Avoidance Anxiety Disorder (ACAAD)
What clinched it for me was a run-in with a young Israeli baalat teshuvah-in-progress, whom I met at a Shabbaton where my husband worked.
This young woman became convinced of the truth of Torah and took upon herself Torah and mitzvot, plus attended classes and read books — but she faced agonizing conflicts.
She approached me, then started asking about some standard issues people encounter when making the BT transition. Her questions poured forth in an increasingly angsty manner.
Having gone through it myself, I empathized with her & calmly responded to her issues as best I could.
But she grew increasingly overwrought and I thought maybe I wasn’t expressing myself coherently enough (Hebrew being my second language and all), so I pleasantly suggested she ask the people whose classes she attended back home. They’d heard these questions repeatedly and have no problem discussing these issues.
“I did ask them!” she insisted. “But I just…”
And then she kept repeating her conflict over it all.
That’s when I understood she was stuck in the very normal transition stage of teshuvah.
This stage pops up again and again throughout life each time you need to cross another bridge in your lifelong journey of continuous self-transformation.
(I always really hate this stage because it feels like a hermit crab without its shell, but it’s a normal & necessary part of the teshuvah process. Please see What's Stopping You from Making Real Change? for more.)
Basically, her head is in one place (what the rabbis explained to her) while her heart is in another place (what she still feels is correct).
In other words: inner conflict. Yuck.
So I realized I couldn’t help her more than her rabbis and rebbetzins already were. You can’t hand people their Yiddishkeit on a silver platter.
After all is said & done, we all have to work for it. That’s just the reality of the process.
So I just remained sympathetic, but didn’t say much because transition is a really angsty place to be, and empathy and patience is often the only way to respond. Ultimately, they need to work through it themselves.
But she pressed on, this time about army service.
“Everyone in my family goes into the armored corps!” she said. “My parents, my uncles, my siblings, my cousins — everyone! It’s our family tradition! Yet I’m the only who’s not. And they keep asking me, they keep pressuring me about it —‘You need to participate too! You also need to give to your country! Why can’t you keep Shabbat & kosher in the armored corps?' ”
Now, this is very normal albeit distressing. Israeli baalei teshuvah who still live at home often go through the gauntlet with their families.
I learned of this distressing dynamic when I encountered the Israeli girls in the Hebrew-speaking section of Neve Yerushalayim. I noticed many of them looked stoic and even miserable, but I didn’t understand why. They seemed very committed to Yiddishkeit...so why were they so unhappy?
Then one day, when a friend & I expressed our friendly envy of the Israeli girls who already knew Hebrew (obviously), and therefore experienced a much easier time learning Chumash and the like, one Israeli girl suddenly blurted out with great bitterness, “Well, you Americans are so lucky! You don’t know what it’s like for us. We’re here in Neve for the week and get all this inspiration and support, but every Shabbat, we have to go back to our families and deal with keeping Shabbos & kashrut in a secular home, plus being argued with and attacked for all our frumkeit and new hashkafot! But YOU never have to deal with THAT on a regular basis! You're spoiled!”
And she was right.
We Anglos have the opportunity to ensconce ourselves within a BT seminary or yeshivah without being forced into the old environment every week, not to mention the unwanted confrontations with disapproving family members and “friends.”
These young Israeli baalei teshuvah can endure a very, very hard time.
So it apparently was with this the young woman I encountered at the Shabbaton.
And despite gently answering her, she kept cutting me off, interrupting with the same questions over and over, and getting more overwrought.
But one thing didn’t make sense to me at that time.
Why was it so important for her, as a girl, to go into the armored corps with the tanks and all that?
Why was that such an issue? (At that time, I still hadn’t realized how deep the propaganda entrenched itself within the minds of secular Israelis.)
So I said, “Wait a minute. I don’t understand something. You’re saying how important it is to your family for you to join the tankistim, but why?”
And her eyes popped wide open, her mouth shut, and she straightened up.
Yet she didn’t say a word.
Because she didn’t respond, I thought maybe I hadn't been clear, so I decided to ask in another way: “I mean, girls don’t actually go in the tanks, right?”
A laugh burst out of her. “Oh no, not at all!” she said. “Of course girls don’t go out to battle!” She kept laughing and rolling her eyes.
“Okay,” I said, pleasantly. “So what would you be doing in the armored corps?”
She gave a short incredulous laugh. “I would be serving!”
“Okay,” I said. “But doing what?”
I honestly wanted to know.
Because she and her family were obviously so overwrought about her not enlisting in the armored corps, I kept trying to figure out WHY her enlistment was of such vital importance to them.
I assumed some vital piece of information was missing.
Then she started stammering and just kept repeating how everyone in her family served in the armored corps and this was just what her family did and she was letting down everyone by not serving.
With increasing bewilderment, I kept probing for the reason why her service was so essential.
I mean, what was she, as a girl, going to be doing for the armored corps that was so vital to the military capabilities of the IDF?
She frowned and wrinkled her nose at me and gave me a crooked smile. “Well, I don’t KNOW,” she said. “I haven’t actually enlisted, so I don’t KNOW what they would assign me.”
Wanting to be helpful, I prompted her: “Well, what did your sisters and female cousins do in the armored corps?”
She started stammering out answers again, like all sorts of stam busywork that her female relatives carried out.
“But what did that DO for the military effort?” I said. “I mean, how did that help the armored corps exactly?”
Finally, she pulled up and stared out me with a slightly opened mouth and wide-open eyes.
I realized I’d crossed some kind of line, but wasn’t sure what.
“I honestly wish to understand,” I tried to explain. “That’s why I keep asking. I'm not trying to argue with you. I’m honestly trying to understand why a girl serving in the armored corps is so important.”
Then she stared at me one moment more, turned around, and left.
And she avoided me for the rest of Shabbat.
I felt really bad at the time because it felt like I’d pushed her over some kind of edge.
I’d engaged in a confrontation without even realizing it. And I wasn’t looking to break or crush anyone.
I tried to make it up to her by being really nice and non-threatening during the rest of Shabbat, but every time I approached her, her eyes widened and she took off.
Oh dear.
But that & the discussion with the thoughtful university Leftist clinched it for me: Secular Israelis maintain a cult-like mentality regarding IDF service that overrides all reason and logic.
This young woman became convinced of the truth of Torah and took upon herself Torah and mitzvot, plus attended classes and read books — but she faced agonizing conflicts.
She approached me, then started asking about some standard issues people encounter when making the BT transition. Her questions poured forth in an increasingly angsty manner.
Having gone through it myself, I empathized with her & calmly responded to her issues as best I could.
But she grew increasingly overwrought and I thought maybe I wasn’t expressing myself coherently enough (Hebrew being my second language and all), so I pleasantly suggested she ask the people whose classes she attended back home. They’d heard these questions repeatedly and have no problem discussing these issues.
“I did ask them!” she insisted. “But I just…”
And then she kept repeating her conflict over it all.
That’s when I understood she was stuck in the very normal transition stage of teshuvah.
This stage pops up again and again throughout life each time you need to cross another bridge in your lifelong journey of continuous self-transformation.
(I always really hate this stage because it feels like a hermit crab without its shell, but it’s a normal & necessary part of the teshuvah process. Please see What's Stopping You from Making Real Change? for more.)
Basically, her head is in one place (what the rabbis explained to her) while her heart is in another place (what she still feels is correct).
In other words: inner conflict. Yuck.
So I realized I couldn’t help her more than her rabbis and rebbetzins already were. You can’t hand people their Yiddishkeit on a silver platter.
After all is said & done, we all have to work for it. That’s just the reality of the process.
So I just remained sympathetic, but didn’t say much because transition is a really angsty place to be, and empathy and patience is often the only way to respond. Ultimately, they need to work through it themselves.
But she pressed on, this time about army service.
“Everyone in my family goes into the armored corps!” she said. “My parents, my uncles, my siblings, my cousins — everyone! It’s our family tradition! Yet I’m the only who’s not. And they keep asking me, they keep pressuring me about it —‘You need to participate too! You also need to give to your country! Why can’t you keep Shabbat & kosher in the armored corps?' ”
Now, this is very normal albeit distressing. Israeli baalei teshuvah who still live at home often go through the gauntlet with their families.
I learned of this distressing dynamic when I encountered the Israeli girls in the Hebrew-speaking section of Neve Yerushalayim. I noticed many of them looked stoic and even miserable, but I didn’t understand why. They seemed very committed to Yiddishkeit...so why were they so unhappy?
Then one day, when a friend & I expressed our friendly envy of the Israeli girls who already knew Hebrew (obviously), and therefore experienced a much easier time learning Chumash and the like, one Israeli girl suddenly blurted out with great bitterness, “Well, you Americans are so lucky! You don’t know what it’s like for us. We’re here in Neve for the week and get all this inspiration and support, but every Shabbat, we have to go back to our families and deal with keeping Shabbos & kashrut in a secular home, plus being argued with and attacked for all our frumkeit and new hashkafot! But YOU never have to deal with THAT on a regular basis! You're spoiled!”
And she was right.
We Anglos have the opportunity to ensconce ourselves within a BT seminary or yeshivah without being forced into the old environment every week, not to mention the unwanted confrontations with disapproving family members and “friends.”
These young Israeli baalei teshuvah can endure a very, very hard time.
So it apparently was with this the young woman I encountered at the Shabbaton.
And despite gently answering her, she kept cutting me off, interrupting with the same questions over and over, and getting more overwrought.
But one thing didn’t make sense to me at that time.
Why was it so important for her, as a girl, to go into the armored corps with the tanks and all that?
Why was that such an issue? (At that time, I still hadn’t realized how deep the propaganda entrenched itself within the minds of secular Israelis.)
So I said, “Wait a minute. I don’t understand something. You’re saying how important it is to your family for you to join the tankistim, but why?”
And her eyes popped wide open, her mouth shut, and she straightened up.
Yet she didn’t say a word.
Because she didn’t respond, I thought maybe I hadn't been clear, so I decided to ask in another way: “I mean, girls don’t actually go in the tanks, right?”
A laugh burst out of her. “Oh no, not at all!” she said. “Of course girls don’t go out to battle!” She kept laughing and rolling her eyes.
“Okay,” I said, pleasantly. “So what would you be doing in the armored corps?”
She gave a short incredulous laugh. “I would be serving!”
“Okay,” I said. “But doing what?”
I honestly wanted to know.
Because she and her family were obviously so overwrought about her not enlisting in the armored corps, I kept trying to figure out WHY her enlistment was of such vital importance to them.
I assumed some vital piece of information was missing.
Then she started stammering and just kept repeating how everyone in her family served in the armored corps and this was just what her family did and she was letting down everyone by not serving.
With increasing bewilderment, I kept probing for the reason why her service was so essential.
I mean, what was she, as a girl, going to be doing for the armored corps that was so vital to the military capabilities of the IDF?
She frowned and wrinkled her nose at me and gave me a crooked smile. “Well, I don’t KNOW,” she said. “I haven’t actually enlisted, so I don’t KNOW what they would assign me.”
Wanting to be helpful, I prompted her: “Well, what did your sisters and female cousins do in the armored corps?”
She started stammering out answers again, like all sorts of stam busywork that her female relatives carried out.
“But what did that DO for the military effort?” I said. “I mean, how did that help the armored corps exactly?”
Finally, she pulled up and stared out me with a slightly opened mouth and wide-open eyes.
I realized I’d crossed some kind of line, but wasn’t sure what.
“I honestly wish to understand,” I tried to explain. “That’s why I keep asking. I'm not trying to argue with you. I’m honestly trying to understand why a girl serving in the armored corps is so important.”
Then she stared at me one moment more, turned around, and left.
And she avoided me for the rest of Shabbat.
I felt really bad at the time because it felt like I’d pushed her over some kind of edge.
I’d engaged in a confrontation without even realizing it. And I wasn’t looking to break or crush anyone.
I tried to make it up to her by being really nice and non-threatening during the rest of Shabbat, but every time I approached her, her eyes widened and she took off.
Oh dear.
But that & the discussion with the thoughtful university Leftist clinched it for me: Secular Israelis maintain a cult-like mentality regarding IDF service that overrides all reason and logic.
Media Incitement
To further hammer home this point, Ynet military correspondent Yossi Yehoshua has publicly stated on Galei Tzahal (Army Radio) that there is currently a surplus of IDF soldiers and that in only 2 more years, that surplus will reach 17,000. (Please see We Don’t Need More Charedi Soldiers.)
So why all the pressure?
Ironically, despite this secular Israeli mentality of “Army Service Over All,” many of those same people don’t personally care much whether charedim serve.
Because they wish they didn’t have to serve, many of these same people aren’t so upset by charedim avoiding the draft. It makes sense to them. So it depends who. Some resent the seeming unfairness, others are apathetic.
It's a contradiction, no?
Why is there such a contradiction?
It's because much of the outrage, resentment, and self-righteousness isn't really real. It's media-created.
You have certain secular Jewish media & politicians whipping people into a frenzy about an issue that, on their own, many actually don’t care much about.
Why?
Clearly, some kind of an agenda is at work here.
Why else is such propaganda and brainwashing needed? To what means?
The reason why it’s important to know this mentality exists is because when you read a newspaper article written in self-righteous indignation or when you encounter a fellow Jew condemning charedi avoidance of army service & glorifying female participation ("We don't care about decapitating pilots in burning jets! More grrrl power!"), it’s important to understand the basis for much of this resentment and the accompanying feelings of victimhood.
Like, who is really victimized by a yeshivah bachur learning Gemara in yeshivah rather than watching American sitcoms as a "soldier" on an army base?
Some Jewish media outlets set out to convince people that because charedim do not face an all-out mandatory draft, then non-charedim are being victimized by this fact.
(BTW, there are 3000 charedim/young men from charedi families serving in the IDF right this moment — mostly in combat units.)
To sum up:
The self-righteousness, resentment, and feelings of victimhood are mostly not based on logic or reason, but simply a result of media incitement & propaganda INTENDED to whip people’s emotions into the above-mentioned states.
So why all the pressure?
Ironically, despite this secular Israeli mentality of “Army Service Over All,” many of those same people don’t personally care much whether charedim serve.
Because they wish they didn’t have to serve, many of these same people aren’t so upset by charedim avoiding the draft. It makes sense to them. So it depends who. Some resent the seeming unfairness, others are apathetic.
It's a contradiction, no?
Why is there such a contradiction?
It's because much of the outrage, resentment, and self-righteousness isn't really real. It's media-created.
You have certain secular Jewish media & politicians whipping people into a frenzy about an issue that, on their own, many actually don’t care much about.
Why?
Clearly, some kind of an agenda is at work here.
Why else is such propaganda and brainwashing needed? To what means?
The reason why it’s important to know this mentality exists is because when you read a newspaper article written in self-righteous indignation or when you encounter a fellow Jew condemning charedi avoidance of army service & glorifying female participation ("We don't care about decapitating pilots in burning jets! More grrrl power!"), it’s important to understand the basis for much of this resentment and the accompanying feelings of victimhood.
Like, who is really victimized by a yeshivah bachur learning Gemara in yeshivah rather than watching American sitcoms as a "soldier" on an army base?
Some Jewish media outlets set out to convince people that because charedim do not face an all-out mandatory draft, then non-charedim are being victimized by this fact.
(BTW, there are 3000 charedim/young men from charedi families serving in the IDF right this moment — mostly in combat units.)
To sum up:
The self-righteousness, resentment, and feelings of victimhood are mostly not based on logic or reason, but simply a result of media incitement & propaganda INTENDED to whip people’s emotions into the above-mentioned states.
For more stand-alone posts in this series (for which I haven't yet figured out a title), please see:
Now that's funny. I don't see the State of Israel here ANYWHERE. Huh...
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