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The Ultimate Way to Honor Parents and In-Laws

13/4/2018

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Several times throughout his 1824 mussar masterpiece, Pele Yoetz, Rabbi Eliezer Papo emphasizes that the main mitzvah of honoring one's parents and in-laws is AFTER they pass on (may we all live in good health until 120!).

He notes that even if one's parents or in-laws were extremely pious people and everyone left behind is confident they're doing great in the Afterlife, one can never really know for sure. Therefore, it's best to go beyond the yearly kaddish and other traditions of honoring our dearly departed. He notes that it's not enough to do all the important things one does during the 12 months following a parent's death. No one can rest assured regarding one's fate after death, and so children and children-in-law should continue to pray and perform good deeds (like giving charity) on behalf of their parents for the rest of their lives.

In fact, he even goes so far as to say:
It is proper for a son to have his father's image etched before him all the days of his life as if he appears screaming bitterly from amid flaming fire and saying, "My son! My beloved! Have compassion upon me! Have compassion upon me! Save my soul from the sword and my being from the grasp of a dog!"
Lest this all sound frightening and gloomy, Rav Papo reassures us that we'll receive tremendous blessing for showing departed parents so much care and compassion. Their departed souls will bless our living souls and God will also be very Happy about our concern and compassion for people who are no longer able to help themselves.

So providing merits for departed loved ones is an all-around win-win situation for everyone involved.

To this means, Rav Papo composed a short prayer to say, and he recommends that it be said at the beginning of each day.

Where it says "etc," you can apparently fill in whatever person you choose. You can also apparently say this for a grandparent or anyone else for whom you wish to provide merit in the Afterlife.

You should also feel free to change the Hebrew possessive in the last line to feminine form or plural, if necessary, i.e. instead of nafsho, you can say nafsha for a woman or nafsham for several people.

Here is the prayer in Hebrew, English, and transliteration:
יהי רצון מלפניך ה אלוקינו ואלוקי אבותינו שתקבל ברחמים וברצון כל מעשה הטוב אשר אני עושה בין במחשבה בין בדיבור בין במעשה ויהיה הכל בזכות ובמנוחת ולעלוי נפש רוח ונשמה של אבי ואמי וחמי וחמתי וכו'. יהי רצון שתהא נפשו צרורה בצרור החיים
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May it be favorable before You, O God, our God and God of our fathers, that You shall accept with compassion and favor every good deed that I perform, whether it's in thought, in speech, or in deed, and may it all be considered as a merit and respite and elevation of the life-force [nefesh], spirit [ruach], and soul [neshamah] of my father and my mother and my father-in-law and my mother-in-law, etc. May it be Your Will that his [or "her" or "their"] soul shall be bound in the bond of [eternal] life.
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Yehi ratzon Hashem Elokeinu v'Elokei Avoteinu sheh tekabel b'rachamim uv'ratzon kol ma'aseh hatov asher ani oseh/osah bein b'machshavah bein b'dibur bein b'ma'aseh v'yiyeh hakol l'zchut v'l'menuchat ul'ilui nefesh, ruach, uneshamah shel avi v'imi v'chami v'chamoti, vechuleh. Yehi ratzon sheh tahei nafsho tzrurah b'tzror hachaim.
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May we all succeed in completing our full rectification in this lifetime without tribulations or disgrace.
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2 Comments
stella
14/4/2018 18:20:37

Todah, Myrtle,

Any prayer for siblings? would appreciate..

I am not of your faith, but i follow Hashem.. and follow some of the Jewish prayers. Amen.

sc

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Myrtle Rising
15/4/2018 11:12:01

Hi, Stella!

I don't know of a specific prayer for siblings, but this prayer can also be said if one just changes it to "the soul of my sister/brother" rather than "my father and my mother," or add on the sibling in addition to "my father and my mother."

My sympathies go out to you and anyone who needs these prayers. It's very hard to lose a close relative.

May we only hear good news from now on.

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