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What Happens When the Bar Drops So Low

17/4/2019

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​Needless to say, my personal views fall on the side of the right-wing conservative camp, in both Eretz Yisrael & America.
 
But because the bar of decency and good values has been pushed so far down in America, conservatives end up catering to that level, even when better values and a higher level of decency are what people really need.

Conservatism Not Quite Up to Par

​For example, when it comes to premarital hanky-panky, conservatives focus almost solely on preventing pregnancy rather than extolling the virtues of waiting for marriage.

(Yes, there are conservatives like Ben Shapiro extolling the virtues of pre-marital abstinence, but the discussion still focuses more on pregnancy-prevention.)
 
In addition to pregnancy-prevention, conservatives speak a lot about alternatives to abortion. It has never been easier to be an unwed single mother than it is today (which has its upsides and downsides) and adoption is also an option.

​But there are problems with both unwed single motherhood (and unwed motherhood in general) and yes, there are problems with adoption. Yet while some conservatives do discuss the importance of marriage before motherhood (including the value of even shotgun weddings), the downsides of adoption are ignored, presumably because of the fear of a potential mother choosing abortion in order to supposedly “save” herself and her unborn child potential suffering.
 
Furthermore, many conservative female pundits have taken on dressing like bimbos (when all men still need to wear full suits and ties in order to be taken seriously as professionals), presumably to burst the stereotype of the staid religious conservative woman.  To my mind, there’s a happy medium of looking classy and stylish without looking like a cocktail waitress, but despite the intelligence and integrity of a lot of these women, they obviously disagree.

Conservatives are having the Wrong Discussion

​Finally, this whole thing with Joe Biden is just weird.
 
Now, many of you women reading this have been out in the professional environment. You’ve worked with men.
 
How acceptable or common was it for a male co-worker to stand behind you, put his hands on your shoulders and start rooting through your hair like a hog in search of truffles?

It’s wasn't! And it's not! And we all know that.
 
For those of you guys were not shomer negiah at some point in your life, how many of you pawed your female colleagues and snorted her hair — and did so in a high-level professional situation, like during White House ceremonies?
 
None of you! (Probably.)
 
It’s not normal behavior and we all know this.
 
And yet the conservative media focuses on how this is worse than Trump’s improprieties (to point out Leftist hypocrisy) and how the women didn’t seem to enjoy it and because they were in a situation with important dignitaries and on camera, didn’t feel like they could protest in any way.
 
Okay, these are good points.
 
But the main point is that HE SHOULDN’T BE DOING IT AT ALL.
 
ESPECIALLY to the little girls who are so obviously uncomfortable with his pawing and whose parents either don’t or won’t put a stop to it when they are standing right there (presumably, once again, because of the situation and the cameras).
 
And his whole obviously fake & lying “excuse” of just being a warm, friendly guy — why don’t we see him pawing male staff members, if he is such a warm and naturally touchy-feely dude?
 
How come he’s not snorting through THEIR hair?
 
And why is the deciding factor whether the women like it or not?

Decency Works Both Ways

​Yes, it’s important to note that the women (and the young girls for that matter) DON’T seem to like it at all.
 
But let’s also look at it this way:
 
Let’s say that you’re a guy at a high-level professional government conference or ceremony, which is being filmed nationwide. Now let’s say one of your female colleagues whispers to you something like, “Hey, could you please start vacuuming my hair with your nose and pawing my shoulders?”
 
Would you do it?
 
Most likely not.
 
Why?
 
Because it’s REALLY weird and inappropriate to do something like that!
 
It just IS.

Torah Hashkafah Sets the Standard

​The above conservative fail (or partial fail, if you will) highlights one of the many brain-straightening aspects of Judaism.
 
Halacha forbids Jewish men from looking at women, even if she wants to be looked at.
 
Halacha forbids Jewish men from touching women, even if the woman demands to be touched.
 
It’s just plain forbidden.
 
It’s not appropriate. It’s not allowed.
 
And while the halacha isn’t exactly the same for non-Jews, it’s suffice to say that throughout history and in the vast majority of cultures including and up until today, pawing women and rummaging through their hair with one’s nose was considered inappropriate (at best—I’d like to see someone try this in Saudi Arabia).
 
Anyway, the point is one of PERSONAL responsibility and PERSONAL decency, regardless of what the other person is doing or saying.
 
The other person’s response shouldn’t necessarily be the deciding factor for common decency.
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Deborah
17/4/2019 09:50:23

I think what we have to remember is who the "conservative" in America are. They are Eisav-ik Christians. The same ones who practiced outright antisemitism up until the 1960s/70s in America. Yes, they are more right-thinking than their Leftist counterparts but let's not be fooled by the pig hooves. Like all Eisav-iks, they live for materialism. As long as they can have a shot at "The American Dream" (in some for or another) and the steaks are on the grill, they can practice their pro-Zionist Christianity. But woe to the Jews when the economy tanks... or Hashem send them a far right leader who convinces them to bring out what's really underneath the surface. Eisav hates Yaakov. This is what the Torah tells us. We have been fooled into thinking that Conservative Christians are our friends-- because they say they are "pro-Israel" (even though they are only as long as it is a western democracy and and they have plans to Christianize it and all Jews, chas v;shalom) and because they are against the Left (my enemy's enemy is my friend kind of thing). We can't be fooled. Sooner or later, they will show their true colors. We cannot trust conservative Christians, period. We need to stay with the Torah and what it says about European Christians.

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Deborah
17/4/2019 09:53:51

Jews need to be holy and separate from the nations, and rely on Hashem.

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Myrtle Rising
17/4/2019 11:16:24

Bingo!

I really feel that what's been going on in the world for a while now (and what has been intensifying over the past year or two), also per what you explained in your comment is leading us to make the very choices you mentioned: "...be holy and separate from the nations, and rely on Hashem."

Thank you, Deborah.

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