What To Daven For Each Night of Chanukah
1st Night: Not to be lonely or depressed.
2nd Night: Shidduchim & Shalom Bayit (Marriage & Domestic Harmony)
3rd Night: Good, happy, healthy children
4th Night: The 4 Imahot (Matriarchs)—to be a normal woman within my 4 walls—of true essence.
5th Night: Chamisha Chumshei Torah (The 5 Books of Moses)—Daven that your husband, sons, and sons-in-law should be talmidei chachamim (Torah scholars).
Note: On the 5th night, more than half of the menorah is lit up; you can daven for more light in your life—a revelation.
6th Night: Simcha (joy, happiness). A person can have everything, but still be sad. So daven for simcha!
7th Night: Daven for a joyous Shabbat & divrei Torah at your Shabbat meals. Shabbat is the source of all blessing.
8th Night: A segulah time for barren women. The number 8 symbolizes that which is above nature—an extremely powerful time to daven.
I definitely remember lots of hurried candle-lightings (especially for Shabbat) with a baby crying to be fed or bouncing children that needed supervision.
That's from Hashem and taking care of your children properly shows gratitude for them to Hashem—which can bring you all the above blessings.
So don't stress or feel bad if you can't do it "right." You ARE doing it right!