An "Honorable" Wedding
Originally, this rebbetzin lived in a small Jewish community (predominantly secular, I think) in northern Israel where they had friendly relations with the local Arabs. Pre-Intifada, it was the custom for these Arab and Jewish communities in that area to attend each other’s simchas.
She was at an Arab wedding when all of the sudden, chaos broke out on the men’s side. Turning to the Arab women for explanation, she knew enough Arabic to understand words like, “dead” and “murdered”—in other words, she understood that it was time to leave the wedding.
What had happened?
Well, apparently, there is a special dance performed at Arab weddings and it is a great honor to lead the dance.
However, honor is worth killing for in Arab culture—and that’s exactly what happened.
Both the father of the groom and the father of the bride wanted to lead the dance. Things got overheated and one stabbed the other to death. (I think the father of the bride stabbed the father of the groom.) Then the son of the slain father got up and killed the father who had just killed his own father. (Are you following this?) Then the son of the first father killed got up and killed the son of the second father.
Bride’s father kills groom’s father—groom’s brother kills bride’s father—bride’s brother kills groom’s brother. And so on.
(Isn’t it interesting that people get upset about some guy in an unattractive hoodie stabbing the photo of an Arab, but when actual Arabs are stabbed by fellow Arabs, no one gives a peep? I mean, did you ever hear about this Arab wedding event—or others like it—in any media? Nope, me neither.)
Anyway, I think someone else joined the fray (an uncle or another brother) and killed the bride’s brother until finally the guests managed to put a stop to this.
(And shockingly, the bride and groom remained married! Although I can only imagine how she is treated by her husband and his family…)
Yet the revenge killings did not stop at the wedding. All in all, 8 people were murdered in what became a blood-feud over leading this stupid dance.
I think that probably most of the people reading this already know that this kind of thing is totally acceptable and even laudable within many parts of Arab (especially Muslim-Arab) society.
Worse than Sodom
It is always horrifying to read about how Arabs (and many other Third World people) will murder their own child for such petty reasons, such as refusing to marry the person the parents chose for them, or even murdering a young girl who was assaulted (no matter how young she was or how many brutes were involved in the attack). As many of you recall, the society is so twisted that a Palestinian woman murdered her teenage daughter after that daughter was assaulted and impregnated by her own brothers—and that wasn’t considered so bad by their society or their courts. (This "honor" killing happened after the girl gave birth and the baby given up for adoption.)
The mother received a 6-year sentence while the brothers received 2-3 years in prison. General Arab society obviously has no problem with this kind of violence nor with the fact that they disregarded a particularly strong and abhorrent taboo. The mother was not humiliated by her sons’ aberrance and brutality, but only by her daughter’s innocence and victimhood.
(And judging by the lenient sentencing, the Palestinian courts concurred with the mother.)
If you ever speak with certain types of Arabs in Israel, they are totally open about their bestial attitudes. Whether it is supporting terrorism or boasting of beating their wives, the ones who maintain such attitudes make no attempt to hide them. For example, after an attack by a female terrorist from Jabal Mukaber who was killed by Israelis, an Arab told my husband about the terrorist: "I knew her! She was such a nice woman. Why did they have to kill her?"
To be fair, other Arabs have admitted to my husband that they are upset by the attacks on Jews and blamed them on the mosques, which rile up the brainwashed masses.
Also, is there anyone living in Israel who does NOT know that Arabs regularly shoot off automatic weapons during weddings? Has anyone reading this who lives in Israel NOT heard the bizarre combination of rat-a-tat-tat amid Arabic wedding music? It’s bizarre and hypocritical that Jews waving around weapons at a wedding are condemned while Arabs who actually shoot weapons (or people!) at a wedding are completely ignored.
Overwhelming evidence dictates that we need to be far more concerned about Arab aggression than Jewish "aggression."
Let’s Be Honest: Of Course They Know! They Lack Heart, Not Brains and Military Intelligence
My other point is that if there is an arson, or any other type of crime within an Arab community, logic and experience proves that it is most likely to have been committed by fellow Arabs—and not Jews (or Mormons or atheists or Baha’is, etc).
And in Duma, there were already convincing indications that the arson was the result of an ongoing blood-feud between fellow Arab clans. It is so easy and much more convenient and “honorable” for the local clans to plant red herrings that point to Jewish involvement.
The lack of brotherhood among Muslim brothers has long been an irreconcilable embarrassment to them. When they can, they’re happy to find a scapegoat.
I know you already know all this, dear readers. But I also just want to be part of the exalted “We’re-Not-The-Brain-Dead-Suckers-That-You-Foul-Sociopaths-Think-We-Are” movement.
And obviously, Jews living in Israel are definitely familiar with Arab mentality, even if they’ve met decent Arabs who don’t share their brethren's warped attitudes.
So everyone knows, but how many people really care?
What’s particularly chilling is that the Israeli ministers certainly know. The Israeli security agencies certainly know. If you have ever served in most parts of the army, you certainly know. These groups have interacted personally with Arabs and have made it their business to know the ins and outs of Arab customs and attitudes. In other words, they are very aware of how a great many Arabs think and behave—they can’t NOT know.
So why are they picking on—or turning their backs on—Jewish youths?
At the Crux of the Struggle, It's All Down to Emuna
Needless to say, the hollow hearts will not win.
In fact, they have already lost.
Through their words and actions, they have crossed an unforgivable line.
Like others have already said, it is a time to turn to Hashem and plead on behalf of Elisha ben Naama and any others who are unjustly incarcerated and interrogated or persecuted in any way.
Through our voice, we show Hashem Whose side we’re on and that we don’t care about externals like kippahs or clothes or hairstyles or diverse customs, ethnicities, or nusachim—we only care about what Hashem thinks.
Hashem wants our hearts.
And that has always been the most important part of our service to Hashem.